[paige20ae]

I was adopted from birth and have always known about it. When I turned 18 (2 years ago) my parents (adoptive) agreed to let me contact my birth mother, whom they had kept in contact with. She's married now with a son, and we contact each other every once in a while, on holidays, birthdays, etc.
She was 17 when she had me, and her boyfriend was 27 at the time. He got drunk one night when she was pregnant with me and tried to abort (me) her baby. She broke up with and later told him she had had an abortion. About a year after I was born she ran into him and told him the truth. From what she says, he was pretty understanding and gave her some medical information if I ever needed it, and that was it.
I did some snooping around when I was a teenager and found out my "bfather's" name and that he is in prison for murder and tampering with evidence (he smoked the guys' drugs). From inmate records I found out that he is in for another 60 years (he's now 47), so pretty much life.

My question: Should I try to make contact with him? I'll admit, he doesn't sound like the best guy-but he has been in prison for a few years and will be there for many more. I have an excellent relationship with my parents now, but I am still curious. Obviously my expectations of him aren't very high considering what I have already found out.

Any advice? And how do you think he would feel about me contacting him?

[Jackiejdajda]

We all change.. I see nothing wrong with a contact.. a letter.. an exchange.

Drugs can do bad things to a person and when they are gone.. the person is different..

I guess the main question is.. are you strong enough..


Jackie