[R Poulson]

I'm not sure where to begin or even where to look for information. My adoptive parents are wonderful, but even still, I don't want them to know I'm looking. So, I have no information from them. Does anyone have any suggestions?

[snuffie]

One of the first places to start would be to send away for your non ID info. Names are blacked out but other "clues" are sometimes found in it such as occupation etc.
Some states have an adoption record search agency who will help you find your bparents usually for a small fee.
Do you have any info at all?
Snuffie

[R Poulson]

No. I have my birth certificate, but it is the adopted one, not the original. I'm sure my aparents have some info, but I don't want to ask and risk upsetting them. Where do I go to send for the non ID info? Do I look on the state's web site? How small of a fee?

[snuffie]

Do you know the agency you were adopted through? Or do you know if yours was a private adoption? If you were adopted through an agency you can start by contacting them and requesting non ID.
The state adoption record search agency is run through family services in my state. I would imagine you would either be able to find it on your state's web site or family services and you could contact them.

At some point you may want to talk to your aparents about your search. Everyone's situation is different so it has to be your decision but sometimes just telling them how much you love them and that your searching does not mean you are unhappy with them or their parenting and that finding your bfamily will not change how you feel about them at all. I am a reunited adoptee and it did not change the way I feel about my afamily in any way. They will always be my parents and my bfamily knows that. But I needed to search for ME. I needed health history, genetic history and to look like someone. Only another adoptee can truly understand.

My state charged for the time they spent searching. I can't remember how much it was but it was very little compared to private agencies.

Snuffie

[R Poulson]

My abrother was recently reunite with his bmom/family, and he was adopted through LDS Social Services. I can only asume mine would be the same. You think that I could contact them for nonID info? I don't know if I'm ready to tell my aparents. I kind of just want to see what I can find out, and then maybe bring someone else in on it. I'm just not ready to make a public announcement to the fam.

[janf]

do you know what state you were born in? If so call the vital statistics and they should have an adoption part and speak to someone there and ask if you can get your original. I am a bmom and just contacted vital statistics because it has been a while since i ordered his pre and post adoption BC and the gal wrote a letter for him incase he orders his BC. Just a thought

jan

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by R Poulson

I'm not sure where to begin or even where to look for information. My adoptive parents are wonderful, but even still, I don't want them to know I'm looking. So, I have no information from them. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Look up ISRR.. it is free, it is just a list of people looking..

Very nice people.

But you have to be of age.

[R Poulson]

What is ISRR?

[whitsunday15]

International Soundex Reunion Registry. Type that into Google or something and the site will come up.

[R Poulson]

Thanks! I found it already and filled out the form.

[hjcpmeek]

Originally Posted by R Poulson

Thanks! I found it already and filled out the form.

I also was adopted through the LDS- But save yourself some time and send the forms to the state and to the LDS agency that you were adopted through. Then the Agency will send out a package to SLC (the Temple) and the worker will update the file!
I'm currently dealing with trying to find my birthparents and was adopted through the LDS in Ca.

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by hjcpmeek

I also was adopted through the LDS- But save yourself some time and send the forms to the state and to the LDS agency that you were adopted through. Then the Agency will send out a package to SLC (the Temple) and the worker will update the file!
I'm currently dealing with trying to find my birthparents and was adopted through the LDS in Ca.

I was at a local afternoon TV show once and the topic was adoption and reunion. A woman about age 35 stood up and said she was adopted though LDS and that she had no need to search for any information, not even medical. Becasue she now had her aparents blood line.

That is all very nice, but very untrue. I can only hope that she never needs to know for any reason.

I have met an adoptee who had a stack of medical records, she brought them to the support group, about 12 inches high. Her 2 children both had some genetic disease that the doctors had no idea what it was. A judge in CA where her aparents adopted her, refused to open her records so she could contact her bio parents.

This was 10 years ago, I hope her children are still alive.
I also hope she finally got that information.

[higgie]

I had registered here in 2005. I got an email from a women who thinks she is my B mother? What do I do from here. We have been exchanging information for a week now.

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by higgie

I had registered here in 2005. I got an email from a women who thinks she is my B mother? What do I do from here. We have been exchanging information for a week now.

depending on the state, but the bmom can get a copy of the orginal birthcertificate in WA... the amended birth cert that you as the adoptee have (in WA) have the same registration numbers.

On your birthcert if there is a name of the delivering doctor, as the bmom is she knows.

She should know, hosptial, doctor who delivered, city, county and state of birth.. just for starters.

you can also do dna..

Or if you are sure, you might be able to have someone check the closed documents to see if she is the right person.

Bastard nation (yes a web site by adoptees) has a lot of information for this. Good information, don't be scared away by the name.