[wilted rose]

Hey rilo kiley, Guess dreams really can come true, after reading your post I'm just all warm and fuzzy! Can't wait to hear more...
Hugs,
Rose

[rombandee]

Rilo, I'm so happy for you and your b family. Yes there are many young people who don't have the support they need when they need it the most for various reasons.

See i was a disgrace an embarrisment to my family. They felt that by putting me out on the street would take care of my rebellion. I't didn't. To make a very long and painfull story short. My family made it very hard for me to provide any type of home for my 18 month son. We lived anywhere and every where. Never knowing where we would lay our heads down from one nite to the next. One day i realized it was just not fair to Aarick. I gave him a chance I could never give him under the circumstances that we were in at that painfull time.

I have always hated myself for placing him up for adoption. i did get my life in order and married a wonderful man, have 2 daughters, two grandsons. I am searching for this son that I never stopped loving. I actually mailed the first letter today. I only hope from here on out I can accept what may of may not come out of this.

No one really knows the circumstances that contribute to adoptions. They are for many and all involved very painful for many years too come.

I wish you well your relationship with both your A&b parents.
Dee

[Hillory]

Hey Rilo kiley,
I've recently just met by bparents and it has been the best reunion I could have asked for. Our situation is quite similar in the fact that she was 14, he 17 and she didn't tell her mom till she was 6mo prego. There were so many emotions the first time we talked on the phone and so many more when we met in person. The hardest thing about this all is that there are no 'right' answers. Everyone handles these things differently. I am still having trouble deciding where boundaries lie and what to do about certain things but what makes me smile and makes her so happy is that I have had a wonderful life and I have her to thank for that decision.

[jenn_e_ritter]

It is amazing how one little phone call can change your life. When I first heard my mom's voice I was in complete shock. I told myself I should be talking but I could not find the words to come out. I kept thinking her voice sounded so familiar but the memory of it felt so far away. i talked to her for 39 minutes. Then my sister called me and I was on the phone with her for two hours.

My mom was disowned by her family. All because of not keeping me. That is all the information I know. And she did not make contact with them for over a decade I think.

But I am very happy for you. Never let go of that memory. Treasure it forever. That is something no one can try or take away from you.

[longingtomeetyou]

this was a great post to read!
Congrats!!
i cant wait for that day!!!


tks for sharing

[Cookie_2]

Yes, I was in a situation where adoption was not the adoption my family wanted. I was in a horribly abusive family. I made the best situation. And yes, it was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.

[Moongrl22]

Originally Posted by rilo kiley

Hello everyone,

I just had the first phone call with my birth mother and didn't know where else to turn. I was so nervous. I called her a half hour late; traffic, my dog had to go out, I had to change from work clothes, light a candle, turn on some music, etc... My fingers went numb and my cell phone died before I called. My little dog freaked out and ran around and around.

Finally I called- and it was as if I had known her forever. Has anyone else had this experience? All my fears melted away when I heard her voice. I was no longer scared. We talked for 2 and half hours, it was great. I mean, I still want to cry (and am), thinking a few things were misunderstood- but, overall- it was magic.

She told me when she was 16 (with me) she waited 6 months to tell her mother because she "knew what she would do." When she finally told her mother she was pregnant with me (at 6 months) her mother said, "We can send you to New York and take care of that." My birth mother stood strong in her position and finished High School with no seats that she would fit in (the school never thought she would show up!) so she shared 2 chairs between 2 boys, and graduated high school 18 days after my birth. My birth father (who is still in contact with her and has my info but hasn't contacted me yet) asked her to marry him at that time, but she said he had an abusive family and she wouldn't raise me in that.

I guess my new post is, has anyone had a baby where their family didn't support them in giving it for adoption (or even carrying it to full term?) or where they felt pressured to marry, but felt the best choice was to relinquish the child- though it was the hardest choice? I just never knew my bmom's mom would've made her abort me. It's so crazy to hear. You know? I've wondered about other birth/first mother's choices and who helped/supported them, and who wanted to help them with another choice. Maybe this is a terrible post. It's way too long already. I just thought, if there was a moment I should I post- it's now. I'm so glad to talk to her. She was so brave. She is sooo brave. I want to write theme songs for her. Did I mention her father died when she was 13? She was the youngest of 5 and the least close to her mother because of her choices in life. Beginning with me. Her choice for my life. How do I begin to thank her for her courage? Her bravery? I don't know where to start.... Help me?

Your story touched my heart. Thank you for sharing. I'm a Bmother who kind of went through the similar experience your Bmother went through. I was got pregnant my senior year of high school. My boyfriend totally rejected me, told me he was using me. He told me he would pay for the abortion. I told him "That's not an option, EVER!" He processed to tell me he wanted NOTHING to do with me or the baby. He told me OFF and ask me never to contact him again. I was Horrified! I couldn't believe I misjudged him so badly. I guess the sign's were all there.

After I gave up my Bchild up for Open Adoption, three years after her Bdad found me and he begged me for forgiveness. He said all those things he said to me was out of fear. He didn't mean it. He did sign the adoption papers and released his rights. He told me I did the honorable thing and he thought I was brave. He even wanted to get back together and start a life together. Okay this took two weeks of us talking and he wanted me back in his life. I told him I had moved on with my life and we weren't meant to be together. It was never going to work. I gave him a picture of our Bchild to keep. He cried! I've never spoken to him after that day. I'm not angry anymore with him but what he did to me while I was pregnant was hurtful.

I wouldn't change anything. I gave Birth to an angel. A precious beauty. She was a miracle. My Bchild has always been the truth love of my life. I've never forgotten about her for one day of my life. She was blessed with amazing parents and I was blessed with another chance to move on with my life and grow up alittle. I did just that, went on to college and met my Hero, husband. He's the man of my dreams. We have three children together and life has been good. My Bchild just turned 18 Dec 2006. She's already made contact. I don't know when we will meet, I leave it up to her. I just count my many blessings.

Good luck to you.