[mxdad418]

Yep Deb, thats what my Mr. Webster says too. But i also have another definition from yourdictionary.com.....

"She suffered much from a morbid acuteness of the senses" (Edgar Allan Poe). hmmmm.......sound familiar?

I changed the He to a She....i thought it fit Sidney's personallity.

Also....(B) "Psychologically unhealthy or unwholesome:"

Mark 08-17-53

"Ohhh woe unto those with closed minds" (Mark 08-17-53)

[RiverGal]

Mark ~ I do enjoy that fine mind of yours!

~D

[shirleyville]

Old Syd's profile says he's a guy......

[cday]

We all have a right to know who we are, where we came from, etc. I also consider it a need. Without knowing I will never feel complete. I feel as if I was born and just put out on my own to figure it out, with no one to turn to for answers. This is not morbid curiousity!

[mxdad418]

Ohhh Reaaaally?????

"She suffered much from a morbid acuteness of the senses" (Edgar Allan Poe). hmmmm.......sound familiar?


"He suffered much from a morbid acuteness of the senses" (Edgar Allan Poe). hmmmm.......sound familiar?

Thanks Shirley for the PI work
Ok...all bases covered..

Mark 08-17-53

[Mrs.G]

Wow. I have a few comments. I want to thank Shirley for her comments. I have a birthmother who was very interested in me at first and she and her daughter talked to me and emailed me and sent me photos etc then backed off and now she says she has to think about a meeting where before she said she wanted to meet. She also wont tell her son about me and doesnt call me anymore. I had a really hard time with this but shirley's comments have really helped me. I am very lucky because she told me who my birthfather is and I met him, his children (my sis and brother) and 2 of his sisters and one brother. They have all welcomed me and have been loving toward me. I am truly grateful for that. I do have my medical history etc and Thank God for that also. I feel we dont understand and do have a hard time understanding those who dont want to meet us and I do feel we are the only abandoned people who are expected to feel grateful as the previous quote states. Just like birthmoms have issues, so do we but we often are the ones expected to always think of their feelings.I find that really hard. However, I am grateful to be alive. We are probably one of the only group of people who really could have been not born. I thank God for my birth and for the fact that I was adopted . I pray every Day and the Lord has given me strength. Remember, even when it feels that no one else loves you, you can always turn to the lord.

[Alicairene4]

Tanya,
What a great post! I totally know what you are saying about trust in the Lord. It feels great to know that He knew what I would go through before I was ever born. You are so right He will always love us! I liked your point of view about "we are expected to think of their feelings first" no matter how much there pain ends up hurting us. I guess what helps me through it is I always want to treat others like I would like to be treated. God sees and He rewards our compassion better than any mortal person ever could. I am whole, adopted or not, in His love. God had a great purpose for adoptees--To demonstrate His forgivenness and love like no one else can. Those who trust in His love are adopted into His family and that ties us all together.
Thanks,
Alica

[Mackie]

Katrina,

I have the OH birth index 1959-89 and if you will send me an email with her married name now and her maiden name I assume was EARL....I may be able to find you a sib or 2 :-)
I did find one marriage in Cleveland that may be hers if she only married once but I need your permission and validation of the hubbys name..OK

I do OHIO searches and its FREE so not to worry dear.
Blessings
Mackie

Originally posted by Katrina Ann E
How should I approacher her?

I have researched and found a member of my birthmother's family. She has so far refused contact with me and continues to deny maternity. The family member I found still lives at the address she listed on my birth certificate. It also list her name and the place of her birth.

I occasionally contact her stepbrother to let him know that the line of communication to me is still open. I recently found out that she lost her husband and I am hoping now that if his finding out about me was a hindrance that maybe she will reconsider and at least give me the name of my birthfather so I can try to contact him or his family.

I have tried to arrange a conference call with her but I don't know if she has accepted the invitation yet. Since my birthfather was not listed on the birth certificate and the non identifying information is too general to begin an online search, She, Leona, holds the key to the answers I need.

I avoided watching the Antwone Fisher story for many reason, but when I finally saw it, especially the ending when he located his birthfather's family, I could not help but be moved with the hope that maybe these people in my life would be at lease 50% as receptive. At this time I want information. I need to know who I look like, if the things I like are similar to at least one of my birth parents. I would like to know if I have any siblings? There is an emptiness to living with the though of not being genetically linked to someone you know. It is hard to explain this to those who have not experiences or who do not know the feelings associated with being placed for adoption early in life.

I have not idea who cared for me in the first two years. But I do show some of the classic symptoms of a person who was not properly nurtured early in life. I know there are others out there who share my feelings. I could use the support.

If there is anyone who currently lives in Cleveland, Ohio and can help by identifying the high school in the area Leona lived in, or finding a year book to see if there is any indication who she dated in HS or any old friends I might be able to contact, this would help.

The information I have states that they dated each other in the last two years of high school and graduated in January 1954. He also worked in the kitchen of a hospital in Cleveland before and after graduation. He liked movies and so do I, he liked to sing, so do I, roller skate, so do I and it also noted that he was quite social and like by most people... so am I.

[radiodoll]

...you are, Mackie.

It's people like you who help me keep the faith on these boards. I respect and admire you.

Radiodoll

[Mackie]

Thanks!

Just trying to keep one of the 10 Commandments .......To "Love my Neighbor".


Sometimes I have to stretch waaaaaaaay over the fence to do it tho...

Blessings
Mackie

[Sundancegirl]

I am have a really hard time with those in the "secrets and lies" era. So many adoptee's including my husband just want some questions answered. I cannot understand denying someone the basic knowledge of their birth background.

Genes are a powerful thing and sometimes having some information just helps put some of the pieces of the puzzle together.

And explain to me why denying someone medical history can in anyway be anything but mean spirited on the bmother part. I have a really hard time respecting someone who will not help in the most basic of ways assist another fellow human being. Especially someone they brought to this earth.

I dont know... its almost more than a person can comprehend.

[Sundancegirl]

It seems that just when I think I can have compassion for any
person in almost any situation the Lord throws me a curve ball like my husband bmom.

Sheez....

[kelly2468]

I found my birth mother through the adoption agency where I was adopted from. However, she had no interest in meeting me. I pled with the counselors to tell her that I wanted my medical history and that if we could meet and discuss that I would not bother her again. She agreed and we met for one hour where she told me about my biological history. She has blown me off since even thou she said she would see me again. However, a month after that meeting I got a call from my biological father. (She and he were never married, were 16, and had no contact since my birth.) Aparently she contacted him and told him I contacted her and gave him my information. He called me and set up a meeting. That was five years ago. I have since met all my half brothers and sisters on his side and have been so close to them all. My mother has still not called me and I know I have a half sister on her side that I wish I could meet. I guess I can't complain. I got to meet by dad and his family and it has been wonderful. (And somehow I guess she was nice enough to contact him for me.) I wish you the best of luck.

[thesearchguru]

Here is a website that many who are rejected might find helpful:

http://www.rejection-network.org/

Many blessings,


Email:
California Website:


Other great websites to check out:
http://www.adoptionchat.com
http://www.adoptionlists.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
http://registry.adoption.com/