[Alana71]

I just recently found my biological 1/2 sister who had been given up for adoption by my mother 34 years ago. I only learned of her 8 years ago just before my mom passed away from cancer. I tried desperately to find her before she died but was unable. I continued my searching and just recently registered with ISRR and had results within 3 weeks! It was a dream come true for me. We had been talking and e-mailing for several weeks and finally met this past weekend. It was the most amazing experence of my life. I'm trying really hard to give her as much info as I possibly can but feel I can never replace what she had always dreamed of , meeting her bmother. She feels like she is grieving for her and has admitted feeling depressed since this whole process began. I want to do anything I can to help her through this but all of her dreams of meeting the most loving, kind,caring and beautiful person are shattered. I lost her too but I was able to know her. I hope this reunion can be the beginning of a great future but i'm just worried that she may never have that void filled in her heart.
Alana

[MuyLaBonita]

I can relate to you! I am so sorry about your mom, I can't imagine how heartbreaking that would be. My Blessings. You're very strong!

I reunited (but haven't in person) with my 1/2 sister about a month and a half ago. It was the coolest experience of my life as well. Our mom is quite a dissapointment to both of us. My sister told me that I fill the hole in her life that our mom can't fill. Our mom is on drugs and is bi-polar. She was homeless for a while with my older sister and she has the mind of a child. Life isn't a piece of cake though

I am SO happy for you and your sister! It is hard to know that she will never meet with her bio-mom. At least she has you to talk to and both of you are small versions of her. No matter what you do I think that there will always be something missing for her. All you can do is give her all the love that you can and try to fill that hole that your mom can't anymore.

She needs to know that she's not the only one that hasn't met her mother. That is one of the many things you have in common with her. Know that you have each other and that your mother would want you to stick together and be sisters. Sisters are the strongest bond on earth. Believe me.

Open up, tell her how you feel! That's the only way to get the message across!

MuyLaBonita!

[snuffie]

My bmom had passed away a few years before I found my bfamily. I mourned her as if I had I had been raised by her. It may take your sister a little while as she, too, must go through the grieving process. I have enjoyed the stories my brothers and sisters have told me and the photos they have shared with me so much.

I feel that my bmom lives on in my heart and a dear friend of hers wrote that "in death our loved ones are even closer to us than ever before because there is no distance between us."

I wish you much happiness in your reunion.

[Alana71]

Thank you both so much for your insight and sharing your experiences. I definetly will try to be open with her. I fear that I might scare her off. I am just so excited and overjoyed to have her in my life now that I want to do and say the right things. She also seems to want lots of contact but I don't want to interfere with the strong relationship that she has with her afamily(parents and 4sisters). We spent 3 short days together which was better than anything I ever imagined!!
Snuffie, you sound like you have come very far with your reunion and grieving process. I hope it gets better for her also. I appreciate the quote, it is very true and touching.
MLBonita, You are absolutely right about the sister thing. I 'm now a little sister and I had grown up an only child. We're only 2.5 years apart. It's very cool !
-Alana

[MuyLaBonita]

Please keep me posted on your relationship with your sister. It's fun to listen to other stories. Stay true to yourself and know that she DOES love you and always will!