[GailLane]

Wow I read the stories and some are good and some are bad. I am a birthmom just hoping for a reunion any day. I do not have any types of mental illnesses or did I ever. When I gave my daughter up for adoption the decision was mostly made by my family. Everyday you live with the fact that this was done. Trust me at 36 I think wow I really could have done it but, would I be where I am at if I had raised my daughter. There are so many questions to ask her and let me tell you. The way I was treated after giving up my daughter was awful. People actually would not let me hold their babies because they thought I would get attached and everyone felt uncomfortable around me for a long time. My adoption was just like in the movies. Someone heard on the street and the woman came in and offered me money for my child. I told a nurse that I told the woman okay and the police then got involved. Me and the baby had 24 hour protection so this woman or anyone couldn't contact me or try to steal the baby. We were able to see her for 6 months after also I did not understand this part. My mom and sister and my 3 nieces all would go and play with her hold her and I just did not like the fact of even going. Why we are not taking her did anyone think of how I felt everytime leaving her again. Now 18 years later this is where I am looking and posting on every imaginable site. I have consent letters everywhere and I even agreed to pay for all fees for her incase she does not have the funds. I did name her and boy if they kept her name it is Candyace Lorainne. I was always Candy when me and my freinds would play detective. You know the blonde Angie ****inson on the detetive show. That is where it came from. I doubt if her parents kept her name because in the courthouse it is under "baby girl" and that is it. Catholic Charities will not give me any information. I hope everyone can deal with there situations. And I will listen if anyone needs me to. Birthmom in the progressive of searching.

[francie169]

HI!

Your posting is very interesting. I just sent in my volenteer registy form, and am very nervous. I am scared to call and see if she has sent in anything wanting to contact me. My whole life i have had this image of her, she wrote me a note when i was adopted saying she wanted me to be catholic, that she loved me, and that she was thinking about me. I would love to meet her one day.. it seems like she is a fabulous person, but i am afraid of being let down. I am also afraid to contact the agency about my form because I don't want to be rejected for a second time.

I enjoyed reading your posting... it gives me encouragment to call. I am just so nervous. Also I have not told my adoptive family about my search, what do you recommend I say to them.

Thanks!

[thesearchguru]

This is the largest and oldest free adoption registry in the U.S.

International Soundex Reunion Registry (I.S.R.R.)
POB 2312
Carson City, Nevada 89702-2312
(775) 882-7755
Website:http://www.isrr.net/





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http://www.adoptionlists.com
http://www.adoption.com
http://www.adopting.org
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[GailLane]

I am not sure what you mean by being rejected a second time. Your birth mom probably was in a situation. We will never know until you try contact her. Have you put your information on this site? There are many people searching and I would hate fear to stand in your way of something that could be beautiful. Please make phone calls and try harder. If your birth mom does not want to have contact with you, that is something you will have to deal with. But, you do have a family that loves you right now and I can't think they will not want you to know your biological information. It is hard because I have to put myself in many postions to understand, and I have asked many questions and have many people to talk to, that have been on the adoptive parent side also. Your adoptive parents are very protective I can only imagine. What if your a-mom has all of the info right at her finger-tips and you are searching and having to wait. Time is all that you have. Don't waste it. Let me know your information and let everyone else know. Maybe someone can help you if they see your post. Talk to you soon.
Gail
Birthmom searching for daughter born 6/20/1985 Sewickley, PA

[francie169]

Sorry i dont think rejected was the correct word.

Thanks for your advice, I recently told my amom about my search and she was so excited. She cannot wait to meet my birthmother (if i ever find her). I want looking through many adoption registrys lately and came accross one on TxCare's website that my amom told me was a direct match. The problem was that the posting was from 4 years ago. I tried emailing the woman twice now and i immediatly recieve back a mailor demon error message. I looked the last name up on the internet and came up with 18 listings in that area posted on TxCare. I just really hope she filled out the volunteer registry form.

Here is my information:

Girl born at 4:51 PM on December 7, 1984. Born in Fort Worth Texas and adopted through the Edna Gladney Agency. Birth weight was 6lbs 6oz. given to college level educated parents who raised me in a catholic home. Birthmother gave me a light blue Hallmark letter at the time of my birth.