[mlebassett]

What helped? That is an easy one. My husband. I couldn't have made it through without him. When I met my bmom and half sister for the first time he was GREAT!! Without my ever saying anything he and my nephew invited my halfsister out so that my bmom and I could have some time alone. Now almost 7 years later he is still as supportive as ever. Not all of the seven years have been smooth sailing and he has been there for me through thick and thin. It really helps to have a good support system when reuniting. If it's your afamily or your friends or whoever. It's never exactly what you expect and you need a safe place to "fall" once in a while.
Emily

[behlandt]

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My reunion has been played out vie e-mail or snail mail. I have been corresponding with my birth parents this way for one year. Does anyone have a similar experience? Can you offer any advise on how and when it might be the time to move forward to person to person visit?

[Drgnrdr451]

Originally posted by behlandt
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My reunion has been played out vie e-mail or snail mail. I have been corresponding with my birth parents this way for one year. Does anyone have a similar experience? Can you offer any advise on how and when it might be the time to move forward to person to person visit?

My advise is to ask them if they would like to join you for a meal at a local, casual diner. After a year you should have a good idea of how they feel about you. Are their letters and e-mails easy and intimate or formal and guarded. Are yours to them open and comfortable or still guarded and tentative. If the exchanges have been open and friendly invite them to lunch or dinner. If not, then work on it.