[HBV]

Warning: If you are looking for drama or a heated discussion, this is not the post for you.

Yesterday was one of those really incredible spring days here---bright and sunny, about 75, a little breeze. The trees are starting to leaf out, the tulips are in bloom. I took H to meet with his bmom,M, and her parents and her new baby at the park. Nothing really special, just kind of a regular visit.

They brought H a kite, and there was just enough wind for it. He was absolutely delighted, and spent about an hour (a long time when you're 2) flying it w/ M's dad while I gave the new baby a bottle and talked to M and her mom. It was just a nice afternoon at the park for a little boy and his grandfather. It's nothing really, so I can't explain why it made me so happy, but it did.

Sometimes when I was waiting for H, I would get on here and read posts about tensions between birthfamilies and adoptive families and I got depressed and scared about what I was getting myself into. But I know now there are lots of stories like mine, about nothing special, just life's little moments that we take for granted at the time. I just thought today that I would share one.

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by HBV

Warning: If you are looking for drama or a heated discussion, this is not the post for you.

Yesterday was one of those really incredible spring days here---bright and sunny, about 75, a little breeze. The trees are starting to leaf out, the tulips are in bloom. I took H to meet with his bmom,M, and her parents and her new baby at the park. Nothing really special, just kind of a regular visit.

They brought H a kite, and there was just enough wind for it. He was absolutely delighted, and spent about an hour (a long time when you're 2) flying it w/ M's dad while I gave the new baby a bottle and talked to M and her mom. It was just a nice afternoon at the park for a little boy and his grandfather. It's nothing really, so I can't explain why it made me so happy, but it did.

Sometimes when I was waiting for H, I would get on here and read posts about tensions between birthfamilies and adoptive families and I got depressed and scared about what I was getting myself into. But I know now there are lots of stories like mine, about nothing special, just life's little moments that we take for granted at the time. I just thought today that I would share one.

You have me all teary-eyed. I hope for days like this with my kids' family. We're a long way from that but you still give me hope. THanks for sharing your beautiful day with us. THIS is how it should be.

[crick]

Aww...what a great day!

Kites, little boys and families....they go together!

[loveajax]

What a beautiful post, HBV!! It sounds like a wonderful day!!

[Emster]

Sounds wonderful! I think the extraordinary part of the whole thing is its "ordinariness". Glad you have something special there.

[browneyes0707]

Actually, this is exactly the kind of thread I LOVE to read more than anything!

And I'm a bit of a drama queen

Sounds like an amazing day HBV! Thanks so much for sharing

[Oceans]

Makes me happy to read this!! It also makes me want a kite...

[PKrellwitz]

Congratulation on a very real and ordinary day. The kind that many of us aspire to....

[taramayrn]

Yep, crying already....what a beautiful day and beautiful post. I hope you took lots of pictures.

Thank you so much for sharing.

[McNally720]

Ah..what a great day. Thank you for sharing!!

[lahdh4]

I love reading about days just like this one!!!!

[Lilly's Mommy]

Ok, so I got a wonderful email from Lilly's birthmom today. I was also thinking of how uplifting it could be to share a "positive", so here goes...

Good morning "Lilly's Mommy",

I wanted to say how wonderful it was to be able to celebrate Lilly's 2nd birthday with you three, your family and friends. It was such a nice party, and I was very comfortable among everyone there just being able to love on Lilly.

I know that my comfortableness is not a priority, but I think it says a lot about how great our relationship is, and I really love that.

After two years, I find I am more grateful for you both and more secure in my decision than I could have ever imagined. I could never have imagined that Lilly would be SO loved, SO cared for and SO well parented, and though I hope that I can continue to relay that to you all the time, I figured that the 2 year mark was a good time to just get it out there.

Thank you for being the wonderful people you are, and loving Lilly SO much. I am so grateful for you both, and our relationship. I hope that as time goes on we can continue to communicate and grow closer.

Much Love,
"Lilly's Birthmom"

ps: I know this is not the most eliquent email but the feeling is sincere and I hope that that comes thru.

If that didn't just warm my little amom heart...

[HBV]

That is so wonderful. I'll bet that made your day.

I love the idea of being able to share these stories (and the e-mails and photos that go with them) w/ the kids when they get older.

[thanksgivingmom]

After all the stress from my visit Saturday (and completely unwarranted I might add) it's so nice to just read that it can be simple. That we WILL get there someday.

[billysmommy]

Tmom, you WILL get there - you are already on your way!

I had a very rough road the first year(ish) of our open adoption. Six years and a second child later, I would never have believed it could be this easy, but it is.

HBV - thanks for sharing how "easy" and "ordinary" it really can be!