[reeseshaven]

Help I'm having all kinds of mixed feelings about tomorrows meeting with my childrens birthgrandmother. To make a long story short she had custody but gave them up to us then changed her mind and tried to stop our adoption, needless to say things got very ugly. Judge ruled in our favor we adopted and life went on... however I kept in contact with her I sent her letters, emails and pictures I know she did what she did because she loves them. Well it's been 4 years and she's coming to town and asked to visit with them. After a lot of thought I agreed and told my DD about it she is now nervous and scared "old grandma" is going to take her away. I explained that she's not and daddy and I will be right there and she's fine... but now I can't help but wonder if I'm doing the right thing. This is normal right? The doubting yourself? and your choices? Right?

[zempagirl]

I think that you are being very gracious. Maybe try to talk to the grandma before she sees your daughter. Have you husband or yourself take your daughter before she comes over and then you can spend a bit of time with her and explain how your daughter is feeling. Maybe that away it will help clear out a bit of stress. Hope your visit goes well and that this has helped a bit. I will be wishing the best for you,

Deb

[reeseshaven]

Thanks.... my poor daughter is a wreck tonight, I'll keep you posted on how it goes!

[zempagirl]

Wondering how the meeting went? Hope you daughter is doing well after the seeing grandma.

Deb

[reeseshaven]

It went well. DD is doing ok... she thanked her gma for giving her a good life... which was heartbreaken to watch. I think gma thought DD would be clinging to her and she wasn't it was kind of like hi nice to see you can I go with my friends now. Gma was very well behaved and thanked me over and over again for the visit and keeping in touch. I think this may be a new chapter for us!

[zempagirl]

I am so happy that went well! Its so nice that she will be able to know her birth grandma. Hopefully it will be a relationship that continues and your daughter and her can become closer. What a nice story!

Deb