[PRAISEMom]

We have four kids, the baby is adopted. Birthmom and I were discussing yesterday what she should be called; I suggested "Mama S---" (her name) but she didn't seem to light up with excitement over that.

My other three don't have a set name for me; it's Mom, Mommy, Mama, etc. so it's hard to pick a title for birth mom that wouldn't interfere with their identification of who I am.

What do your adopted kids call their birth moms? I am particularly interested to hear how this works in multiple-kid families.

Thanks!

[BrandyHagz]

My daughter (I am a first mom) calls me Mom.

My daughters mom is also mom.

We both respond when we're all in the same room...

My son, whom I parent, also calls my daughters mom, mom, I'm ok with that...we're all family.

My daughter is eleven and she made the decision on her own to call me Mom...until the time she made that decision, she called me Brandy.

[Free_to_be_me]

My birthdaughter calls me by my first name or, when refering to me, birthmom.

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

My son's mother if referred to as Auntie A---. That seems to work for us.

[rredhead]

We call Jack's birthmom by her first name, and that's most likely what he will do too (he's 17 months). We tell him that S is his Birthmommy.

[DebCsMom]

We have 3 adopted children. They call them by their first names. When they talk about them, they call them something like, "My Birth Mom L", etc. Otherwise they just use their first names.

Deb

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by PRAISEMom

What do your adopted kids call their birth moms? I am particularly interested to hear how this works in multiple-kid families.

Thanks!

Right now our kids are very little and Bug (age 3) calls her First Mom by her first name, at her First Mom's request. Roo will do the same at his First Mom's request. If and when our adoption are more open (both first moms have backed away right now) and the kids are older, they can decide what they'd like to call their other mothers as long as it is okay with their First Moms.

[mrsred]

My adopted daughter calls her birth mom Mom, or when referring to her either My mom or My birth mom. She was 9 when she came to live with us, and had been with her birthmom till she was 5. From that time till she came to us she was with her maternal grandmother, so still had some contact with birth mom. Trying to change what she calls her now would just cause friction. So far, even when we are all together it isn't too confusing. For dd's birthday dinner she chose to sit "between both my moms".

[SamIAm2]

Natalie calls her bmom by her first name. We tried "Mama C" but it didn't feel right for any of us.

[ingi]

Was that a discussion between parents and birthparents.
We decided to call her by her first name and her mom is "grandma".

[New-Mom-n-Lovin-It]

I am Mom and Birthmom is Mommy my daughter is 6 and this was her choice I wanted her to comfortable with the title...so I left it as her choice...it took her a day or two to think about it...and we gave her all the options..like Mom, Mommy, Momma, "NAME"