[SchmennaLeigh]

Originally Posted by lonni

JMO,but there are many guilty parties here and open adoption is Not one of them.

Well put!!

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by lonni

Charlotte.com | 12/31/2006 | Court fight frustrated mom, sister says
This talks about her unexpected illness during pregnancy(which was invitro) and asking for them back just hours after she placed them.
I support open adoption whole heartedly but I do not support refusal to give them back MERE hours after placement.I could not live with myself if I kept a child who was voluntarily placed and then shortly revolked and I sure would not think much of my adoptive parent's either.I do not like seeing this case associated with open adoption at all.
JMO,but there are many guilty parties here and open adoption is Not one of them.

I agree wholeheartedly.

[rredhead]

I was just reading about this article on another forum community. The reaction there was very different than the reaction here. A couple of people said, "I hope they never find them." And they really ripped into the a-parents.
Of course, at the end, someone mentioned that the children were the real victims, and everyone agreed with that. A few people also noted that there was no way all the facts were being put into the articles. No one mentioned that maybe the b-mom had psychological issues; they all assumed the a-parents were at fault.
Just a different way of looking at things. I hope the twins end up in a family where they are loved and can get over the turmoil of their early lives.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Another note: due to legal proceedings, the adoption has never been finalized. This is 100% not a case of open adoption issues and 100% a case of unethical practices combined with a custody dispute.

[loveajax]

Well, I don't know enough to say that there were unethical practices here or not, but I will say that there is NO justification (here or in the case of divorces, etc.) for the birth mom to take the kids out of the jurisdiction. I am sure she is very frustrated with the court system, but you just can't do that obviously. It does stink though because this will be great "fodder" for people to blast open adoptions, when in fact open adoption is not the culprit here.

[shortlittlemama]

This case was on Nancy Grace this evening (I was hoping to see a feature about another adoption fiasco), and I got a completely different picture. It seemed to me as though the birthmother is a bit on the mentally unstable side. Of course, Nancy's style of "reporting" may have had a lot to do with it. Sounds like a mess!

[thornbird]

Originally Posted by lonni

I support open adoption whole heartedly but I do not support refusal to give them back MERE hours after placement.I could not live with myself if I kept a child who was voluntarily placed and then shortly revolked and I sure would not think much of my adoptive parent's either.I do not like seeing this case associated with open adoption at all.
JMO,but there are many guilty parties here and open adoption is Not one of them.

I just wanted to add my to this. I couldn't have said it better myself.

[2Bulgarianbeauties]

There has to be a lot more here than what has been reported. The Birth mom' s sister said that she relinquished because she was ill, and has since spent $400K trying to get them back. If she had that kind of money, why did she not hire a nanny? And, why did her family not try to help her out while she was ill? I cannot imagine someone going through the expense and pain of invitro to just place the kids because she is sick. And, what about the pacement agency? Just seems they would have advised her to get help before placing.

Anyway, we will probably never know the real details, but it would probably make a good novel.

Kay

[mom2GRLC]

Why would you go through the process of invitro just to end up placing your babies for adoption? I would really question what state the mother was in while making that decision.

Then again I would seriously question her motives for taking the children out of country without permission during a legal process that she seems so invested in. If she was truly determined to get her kids back she would have done everything by the book and with legal councel at her side.

She clearly at least in this instance is not behaving in a mentally healthy way. I do believe she should be charged with kidnapping and that she should loose custody of the children and allow for the children to finally be adopted. regardless of what happened in the past....wether the adoptive parents were right or wrong for not returning the child hours after she signed her rights away. The children are now 17 months old and bonded with the adoptive family and since the birthmother obviosly will not be getting the children back...it seems it would be in their best interest to remain with the only family/life they know.