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Originally Posted By Kastara

Hello! I read your post about your child's birthmother wanting him back but it was too late. The same thing happened to us. When she told her parents, she was surprised that they would have supported her and so she demanded our child back. Her words were pretty hard and yes I did take it personally. I was trying to learn how to nurse and I stopped because I was afraid after that for a long time. Although we have opened up our relationship a little more she has not changed much, she still says things that bug me and I dont mention them in return.
I was wondering how you will tell your child about the incident in the future. I want to be totally truthful but this puts me in the light of being a bad person, and that's not fair.
Thanks for your help!

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Originally Posted By Bonnie

We will definitely tell our son about all we went through as he is able to understand things. We plan on telling him that both his birthmother and us loved him so much that everyone wanted him. We will tell him and show him copies of the updates we send to her twice a year so he knows we kept her informed of his well being.

The hard part is now we are finding out that his birthmother doesn't seem to really be interested in him. It is very evident that her parents wanted him back. They have now contacted us requesting updates. It's an ongoing struggle.