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Originally Posted By Dee

I'm 39 years old and have always known I was adopted. My adoptive parents ARE my parents and I love them very very much. However I needed to know who I was. They supported me in my Need to Know. Now that I have found my birthmother, I want to be friends with her and my half-sibs. My parents don't understand that. They think they have failed me and that I'm not satisfied with them and want a new family. I have reassured them they are all I want but they still have been hurt. Please help me to understand their feelings. Is there a book I could read or have you experienced the same thing? Please help. Thank you.

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Originally Posted By CindyKai

I found my b-parents when I was 38, six years ago.
Despite their support and encouragement, my a-family, esp. parents have struggled with my relationship to my birth family. All I can say is, be patient. Your loyalty and love, over a period of time will win everyone's trust and love. It's been six years now, and I am happy with the closeness i have with both families.

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Originally Posted By Edna Wilson

I am an adoptive parent of two children.My daughter is 39 and my son is 29.My son wants to find his birth parents and I would love for him to find them.I've tried to help him,but it was a closed adoption in1972 and I have been having a hard time trying to help him.I just think that no one can have too much of a family.My husband died when my son was six yrs old and he needs them as much as he needs me.I would welcome them and want to thank them for giving me such a beautiful and healthy son.