[AMom2Two]

Yesterday was our child's birthday, we had a big party. Our little girl just turned 3. She had lots of food, gifts, toys, cake, ice cream, juice and plenty of friends to run around with. There was laughter and smiles and hugs. Family surrounded her.

The day was hot and sunny and everyone was happy, except for a small space inside of my heart. I thought you might call on this day. I jumped each time the phone rang and was dissappointed each time it was not you. I don't understand my feelings.

While the party was in full swing and everyone was laughing, I took a walk thru the woods by myself, alone with my thoughts, I let a tear fall for you. Where are you? Are you okay? Will you ever call us again? Are you hurting today? Are you thinking about her?

I don't know why I feel so strongly about you. Maybe it's because you changed my life in so many ways. Maybe it's because you answered all my prayers and blessed me with your child. Maybe it's because I see your face when I look at her. Maybe because I love you and miss you, I don't understand all of this; not many people do.

Since I can't contact you and I don't know where you are, I have to share these feelings with my freinds here at the forum and hope you will log on and see this. Since I never got the chance to tell you this in person, please know that you are always in my heart and I think about you often, especially more so on our child's birthday. Happy Birth Day ******. If not for you, there wouldn't have been a celebration at our home yesterday. There wouldn't have been cake, ice cream, smiles and laughter. You've given me so much. I wish I could do something for you.

I love you and miss you,

your forever friend
and amom to our child

[elmarie]

Your words are beautiul! What a kind sensitive person you must be to have such loving thoughts for the birthmother of your child.
I am a birthmother myself of an adult son and your words bought tears to my eyes to know that we are not forgotten and thought of so lovingly by the parents of our children. I often wondered how often my birthson's parents thought of me and you have given me reassurance that they did through the years.
I too hope somehow, someway your words found their way to your child's birthmother. Happy Birthday to your beautiful child!

Elmarie

[Missy M]

Mom2...you are always an inspiration to me as a B-mom. This post touched me in ways you will never know...Bless you for blessing me. You posted:
You've given me so much. I wish I could do something for you.

Please know that I feel you, as an A-mom, are doing the most important thing you could ever do...you are giving your child and her B-mom the gift of unconditional love. Bless you; Luv...MissyM

[AMom2Two]

Thank you Elmarie and Missy for taking the time to respond. Hugs to you for your kind words to me.

I've told my daughters bmother that at times when I miss her so much, that I come to this forum where there are bmothers here and even though you are not here, I feel a link to you, thru them. She smiled at me and said she understood.

Knowing that I couldn't make her feel better on our daughters bday, and hearing how I gave each of you some sense of peace, has made me feel better. If I couldn't comfort her, at least I was able to bring some comfort to the both of you.

Thank you again for your comforting words, your time and your compassion.

Hugs,