[gonnabeadaddy]

Hello everyone.

We are new to the board. I have been over at fertilethoughts.com and just recieved an email for this site. I was surprised and glad to see an LDS section. That is uplifting.

Well, we just finished our paperwork in November and got the offical letter from the agency Thanksgiving weekend.

We got a phone call from our case worker on December 5th and he said we matched with a Birthmom. It has been a whirlwind month and we are gearing up. Looks like there is a great support network on the birthmom's side. her family and grandparents are all supportive in her decission.

Question:

Has anyone out there felt unable to attach emotions to a baby? I really want to be excited and all, but it is hard for me to attach any kind of emotion. My wife and I really want this baby.

[lovestory]

That is great that you were matched so quickly! Are you with LDSFS? We are signed up with them, and have been certified since July of 2002. We expect another year wait, at least. I hope and pray that we don't. Please share any insights on how you were able to match so quickly.

About attaching. Once the little bundle of joy is placed into your arms, there is no going back. Your heart will be taken, hook line and sinker. (I know because we have one adopted son, who is the light of our lives.) One other thing, about emotions. Do you have a hard time attaching emotions with anyone? Including your wife and family? (Sorry if this is too personal). The reason I ask, is I have an aunt who married someone who never was able to become attached to others, or truly 'love' someone. They also adopted 2 children, but later they got divorced because of his issue with not being able to attach or love. (It stemmed from his childhood.)

When is the bmother expecting? It is great that she has family support to help her through this.

Stephanie

[gonnabeadaddy]

I have no problems attaching my emotions. I think it all comes down to disappointment. We had been trying for four years and miscarried twice. With this happening so quickly, we are afraid it will be taken away from us, like all of the other past hopes.

How did we place and match so quickly? Don't know. I guess you have to be careful what you pray for. we were really specific in our prayers. And this is what we got. I believe it is all devine. My wifes mom was just diagnosed with cancer. It was caught early and she has a 60 % survival rate after 5 years. I feel that Heavenly Father knew our situation and saw the need. And our Birthmother said she just connected with our picture.

I can send you a private message and give you a sample of our pictutres that we submitted.

The Due date is Feb 23rd. Yes we are going throough LDSFS
we are busily reading everything we can get our hands on and cramming like final exams.

gonnabeadaddy