[HappyHopefulMommy]

Hi - We are an LDS couple who have been trying to adopt for 3 years. We started with LDSFS 3 years ago. After 2 years of waiting, 2 failed adoptions and knowing it could still be several more years, we knew it was time to move on. We chose to work with a county affiliated agency and were recently approved with them. We are now asking for a young sibling group of 2 - 3 kids, 5 and under. I also have an almost 8 year old biological daughter. I am just wondering if anyone has worked with the county and adopted a young sib set. We are nervous about lots of things, but very excited. Our worked said we should have kids within a few months. I know our life is going to be totally different, especially for our daughter. So, just looking for advice . . .

[aspenhall]

you should probably be posting this over in the special Needs board or at least the older child adoption board. I didn't go through the state, but ended up with an older child never the less. It's a whole different ball of wax to raise a child adopted at an older age... But the extra effort means BIGGER payoffs! I'm excited for you!!!

[JeannineW]

No advice but we are in the same boat. We are working through the county. We feel prompted to look for a sibling group of 3 under 8. Most days I think we are crazy but if it is His plan, it will be great in the end.

Keep us posted.

[HappyHopefulMommy]

The 2 kids we were told about did not work out. We were one of three families that were interviewed and after a 2 1/2 week process the worker chose another family. Which is fine, we know the right kids will come to us at the right time. The harder part of the day was that in the same phone call our worker told us we were not selcted for them, she told us about another sib set. They sounded perfect excect they are almost 5 and almost 6. We had specified that we want 2 - 3 kids 0 - 5, but at least one of them umder 2. We have been trying to have a baby for over 6 years and are also trying to fill in the gap a little having an almsot 8 year old. We know we told our worker that, but I guess she forgot. And I guess it was kind of not okay for us to say "no". And saying no was one of the hardest things I have ever done. But I know they aren't my boys. This is when I miss having an LDS worker. Because saying "No, it does not feel right, it is not right for our family" is not good enough for the county. So, our worker goes on to say that now we will have a longer wait (meaning up to 6 months) because we want young ones. But, she has knows this from day one. It is just frustrating and I wish growing my family could be easier.