[dazymae2]

We met with the birth parents for the first time last week. After praying and hoping this child was for us, we came to discover this feeling that it wasn't. Somehow I know that it isn't the best situation for us. And yet it hurts so much. I want a baby so badly, and I know that Heavenly Father wants it for us also, but what if the answer to our prayers is no. How do you go on?

[Elaine95]

Dazy,

I don't have any sort of experience with this...I can't imagine it...but perhaps the birth parents are feeling the same way? Have you talked to your case worker about it?

Hang in there.

[Daisha]

Dazy~

I am sorry that you are having these feelings. I have tried to prepare myself for having the "answer be no" because I know that it is a possibility.

My advise is to look very deep inside yourself and listen very carefully to the spirit. It will happen if it meant to. That is hard to accept isn't it. My DH and I don't have a baby yet and in my situation, it is ME who wants this so bad where as DH is dragging his feet big time. Eventhough it is hard, I really do believe that it will happen when it is meant to.

Where in Utah are you from?? You can PM me and let me know, maybe we could get together for support!!

[katieb31323]

Wow, this is hard but I so applaud you so much for trusting your heart and your gut in this situation.

(((((HUG)))))))))

Katie

[aspenhall]

We haven't been matched yet, but there have been 3 or 4 "designated" situations that we were approached with and the answer was no. It wasn't as hard as I thought to say no. Maybe the bmom will be so impressed with your integrity that she'll tell someone who will eventually lead you to your child. ALSO how often do you go to the temple. Until we went and sat and prayed for HOURS I had interpruted the Lord's answers wrong. Being at the temple I was able to clarify what he had been trying to tell me. I also have faith that if I continually CTR no one can screw up God's plan for our family. If it wasn't meant to be then it won't happen and if it was then it WILL. Ask for a priesthood blessing that you will have more patience and more faith and strength to make the hard choices.