[MrsD820]

I'm Angela, DH and I have been married for 5 years in April. We've known about my infertility since before we were married. We tried the IF treatments, but we prayed and realized that we were meant to adopt.


We got our paperwork from LDSFS on 3/3/06 and we will be returning it with our fee on 3/17/06.

We are excited about the start of this journey and overwhelmned.

[aspenhall]

wow, thats great!!!

Glad to have you here!.....not too much going on as far as LDS-specific issues are concerned, but I'm always here, and there are others too, but they mostly post on other boards about other topics.

[MrsD820]

Thanks, I'm sure once we get through the initial stages, the LDS questions will start pouring out. LOL

[aspenhall]

first bit of advice is GET THE FINGERPRINTING DONE FIRST.....it takes the longest

[Outofline]

We are new to the whole adoption process; we have 4 biological children all boys (from 7-15years). We are looking to adopt a child (girl) over 10 years old through an Independent adoption in the Ukraine! We are just starting our Home Study and know we are in for quite a journey.

Looks as if I am in the minority here as a male on this site! The wife does not get into the whole forum thing as I do!

[DeafSiren]

Hi Outofline,

I didn't really get into forums myself until DH got me hooked on a TV show that has a very popular forum. (We do back-and-forth reviews and debates together.) So, I've been lurking here for about a month and just signed up yesterday. There is a new "waiting" thread on the "Getting Started" forum if you want to check that out as well. Congrats on starting your journey! One of my good friends and her husband have four children ages 20-28 and just adopted an 8 year old boy and 4 year old girl (siblings) from Russia. It's a tough thing, but they are so happy. I applaud your family for making this big step.

By way of introducing myself to the forum:
I'm 29, DH is 30. We've been TTC for almost 5 years, and have been officially waiting with LDS FS since November 2004. We had one birthmother choose us in November 2005 (about the same time my mother passed away), but three weeks later when the baby was born, potential bmom decided to parent. So, we've been grieving a double loss . . . but as always life continues onward.

Take Care!
L.

[aspenhall]

L, (deaf siren) you should meet Crick, another member, only recently started hearing as of a yr or two ago. You guys are the only memebers I am aware of with that particular distinction (hearing loss). (ok, am so NOT politcally correct, sorry if I stepped on toes!)

I am only on par with a baby when it comes to signing ("hand words" says my dd)

Please use your waiting times to educate yourselves on the risks of PADS (especially as it relates to post-institutionalized children (outofline)

Domestic infant adoption situations aren't immune either.

Sorry to hear you had a potential match fall through. I wish I had words to make it feel better. We had 2 fall thru just weeks before the birth, but both cases we were made aware of that risk and knew that it was a 50/50 shot, so the let down was actually pretty minimal.

[DeafSiren]

Originally Posted by aspenhall

L, (deaf siren) you should meet Crick, another member, only recently started hearing as of a yr or two ago. You guys are the only memebers I am aware of with that particular distinction (hearing loss). (ok, am so NOT politcally correct, sorry if I stepped on toes!)

I am only on par with a baby when it comes to signing ("hand words" says my dd)

Thanks, Aspen, Crick--if you come across this, PM me if you want to get to know each other.

No stress about the "political correctness." Technically the PC term is "hearing impaired" and Deaf people *despise* this term. It is roughly equivalent to using the term Negro. We prefer Deaf or hard of hearing. Good that you are aware of your signing level. I swear, I have met people who have learned a few signs from a book or video and they claim that they "know" ASL! They even try to be interpreters! Crazy! But I am totally thrilled with the popularity ASL has now. I'm glad that so many hearing babies/toddlers are learning signs so that maybe they won't be afraid when they see Deaf people/children talking with their hands in public. Maybe they could even go up to a Deaf child and sign "friend" and "play" and that would make a big difference to them.

Sorry to hear you had a potential match fall through. I wish I had words to make it feel better. We had 2 fall thru just weeks before the birth, but both cases we were made aware of that risk and knew that it was a 50/50 shot, so the let down was actually pretty minimal.

Yes, it has been pretty lousy. It will be a long time yet (maybe never) that we can look back and say "it was worth it." We've learned to be more cautious though. This pbmother was extremely reassuring, and I thought her knowing about my mom passing would caution her to not risk our emotions. But, c'est la vie and we've learned that next time we'll look at it as a 50/50 chance. I've learned from reading on this forum to remember that all pbmothers have the make the decision again/finally after the baby is born.

Thanks!
L.

[Hey Nonny]

Hi guys,

DeafSiren...I sereved an LDS Mission to England w/ BSL. I eventually learned Irish and Scottish sign as well. I was a licenced interpreter in ASL before I left. Nice to see more signing folks here! Love your avitar.

Sorry about the failed match. That stinks. We just had our 4th match fall through last week (we also knew that two of them were high risk). It hurts every time. I hope that you and your child find each other soon.

Just wanted to say hi!
R

[aspenhall]

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[gdaisy]

We to are waiting with LDSFS. It has been over a year. My husband and I don't have any children of our own. We also belong to Parent Profiles..

It is great to have other people waiting.. support is wonderful to have.

[gdaisy]

Congrats... We have been on Parent Profiles for 3-4 months and have had a few hits.. Any suggestions on what to say??

[corhen]

What is LDS?

[Tigger27]

LDS is Latter-Day Saints also known as mormon to some

[mamaluna]

I'm new to the forum and to adoption! DH and I have been trying to acquire siblings for DD for 10 years with no luck. Two years ago we completed homestudy/certification with LDS FS - NY agency and last year began some infertility treatments that we had been too emotionally and financially intimidated to attempt earlier. After waiting and waiting for what seemed like forever, our family started having the discussion about "do we want to withdraw from the pool of adoptive parents... we are happy as a family of 3.... there are lots of things that would be easier to do/more affordable with just the three of us... DD will be out of the house soon and then we would be raising two only children, etc...."

In late March, we had decided that we needed to pray and make a decision about whether or not to leave well enough alone and stop adoption and fertility attempts or not when we recieved a call from the agency asking if we were willing to consider placement of a special needs toddler. I told Kim that DH and I would need to discuss it but that I would call him back the next day. Ten minutes later I picked up the phone to tell him that we didn't really need to think about this - we were willing to proceed.

Maxx is about to turn 2, was 2 months premature and has some developmental delays - mostly speech and communication issues - was raised by his valiant young birth mom for first year & 1/2. Her parents took over when she decided that it would be better for both her and Maxx for him to be adopted. When we met bmom and her parents, I was so impressed at what a strong person his mom is - not completely wise or obedient at this point in her life, but strong and thoughtful. We have been here at her parents' home for 3 weeks getting to know Maxx and waiting for legal clearance to take him home to NY.

Thats our story so far.... gotta run!