[Eternal_Family]

We are new to this process. Can anyone tell us (Husband and I) what are some things that helped their adoption process go faster, smoother or better? Having a website? Having a dear birth mother letter? Joining online support group? Or are some of these things unnecessary?

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Tahina & Steven
12/08 – Married + Sealed
01/09 - Started journal + Adoption Portfolio
02/09 - Picked baby names
03/09 - Joined online adoption community

[aspenhall]

Start babysitting a LOT. Start picking out nursery items.

There really isn't anything to do to make the wait easier or better. Use the time to get to know birthparents and adoptees (this forum is a good place to start).

Just look at the list of projects you have waiting to be completed...things you never got around to doing.....DO IT NOW. There will never be time to get anything accomplished once the baby or child arrives....at least not until they start school.

I wish I had taken more advantage of my free time and not recreated so much of it away.

[Eternal_Family]

How does this idea sound? It might help the process, might not. Having an FAQ page about the couple that the birth mother can read and can answer some of the more personal questions she might want to know or ask, such as if the couple will pay for her pregnancy, how long has the couple been married, what religion, how old they are? It can’t hurt, right?

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Tahina & Steven
12/08 – Married + Sealed
01/09 - Started journal + Adoption Portfolio
02/09 - Picked baby names
03/09 - Joined online adoption community

[Eternal_Family]

We are beginning the process of adoption. Since we are new, we have begun looking for more creative ways for birth parents to know what kind of family we are. We have a letter, but also decided to do a FAQ page that might help the birth mother or parents know a little bit more about us. I was wondering how these answers sound honestly. How would you as birth parents feel about these answers?

What kind of adoption would you like?

Prospective Mom - Open adoption. It helps everyone involved feel more confident and comfortable about the situations and the roles they play.

Prospective Dad- Open adoption – the benefits out weight the disadvantages.

How would you feel if the birthmother decided to keep her baby or another family is chosen?

Prospective Mom - It would make me very sad. However, we will not fully fall in love and start planning until the child is ours so we do not acquire false hope that would make being rejected any harder.

Prospective Dad - I would be disappointed. If we are meant to have the child, we will. If that is not God’s plan for us, we will keep moving forward and trust in his judgment.


What do you think of women who give up their children?
Prospective Mom – They might feel like bad women for giving up their children, but they are not. I know if I were ever in their situation, I would never be able to what they have done. They are brave to love their child enough to do what is best, not what they would prefer. I pass no judgments, for it is not my place to criticize or condemn.

Prospective Dad - I think they are doing what is best for their child.