[aspenhall]

AWESOME!!!!!

You'll find the news will travel thru the grapevine and you'll "announce" less and merely answer questions more likely...

That's cool she called! I sent my dd's bmom a video of my dd last year and it was too much for her to handle...I think a phonecall would really mess her up...But she has my number and email and the door is always open...but I let her make all the moves as she's ready.

I have more frequent contact with dd's bdad (actually a step dad) and her brothers. He used to call more often too...but has his hands full as he's a single dad of 3 boys now.

It's hard to explain to my in-laws why contact always makes me shriek with excitement...it makes them feel insecure that we have an open adoption...so I don't bring it up anymore.

[bromanchik]

Congratulations! This is hard, I know. It sounds like you did a wonderful job of explaining your son and his place in your life.

[IzaksMom]

It was hard to talk about. I was actually kind of shaking before I talked to my husbands brother and sister in law. But it was so nice to finally feel free to talk about my son. My sister-in-law asked so many questions that night, we talked about the many intricacies of adoption and my adoption. My son's adopted mother actually knows my sister-in-laws older brother, so that was kind of cool. Anyway, I hope to have to announce less and answer questions more. I am inviting my in-laws over this Sunday for dinner to let them know also that I am finally ready to tell their family about my son, that way they can also ask any questions they may have and they can be prepared for all those who call them with questions and they can send those people to talk to me about it.

[aspenhall]

You might find that other than a passing curiosity, it isn't a big deal to them and once the novelty fades, so will the questions...other than "how is he doing?"

I doubt very much that anyone would be interested enough to actually contact your for the purpose of discussing it. Unless they are considering adoption themselves.