[mom2malia]

My husband and I decided to go forward with adoption about six months ago. We've submitted our inital paperwork through LDSFS and we're waiting on our background checks. Just about as soon as we decided to adopt we have had one problem after another. Both of our cars have broken down numerous times, financially we are devastated at the moment. Probably worse then we've ever been in our 8 years of marriage.
Is this something other people have experienced? Or is this a sign that we're not doing the right thing?
We never had that lightning bolt feeling that this was right, but we've never felt that it was wrong either. Two years ago when we first talked about it, we definitely felt that the timing was wrong, but now... is this the adversary? I really need some input on this from people that have been through adoption or are waiting themselves.

Thanks,
Natalie

P.S. Our first child is biological but we can't have anymore, so this is our first adoption.

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Mother of one miracle, hoping for two!

[aspenhall]

My whole world fell apart just as we were ready to have kids...also again when we actually recieved placement.

If you feel attacked it is probably the adversary. IF you feel like you are being held back or stonewalled, then it is probably timing.

Only pray about it and see how you feel. It could just be discouragement and trials.

[Juliana13]

Yes, definitely. Let's see... huge move... husband lost his job... another move... surgery.... And that's not counting the REAL struggles with emotion, discouragement, doubt. Those were tougher for me than the financial stuff.

I agree with aspenhall - you just have to pray about it and move forward with faith. If Heavely Father wants to stop you from doing something, He usually sends a feeling - you will know something is not right, he usually doesn't wreck your cars. Not that He couldn't, it just doesn't seem to be his usual M.O.

And if you think about it - the adversary has every reason to thwart this. He can mess up a lot of lives - for generations - by messing with families.

If you keep an open mind and open heart, and remain prayerful, you will be know if there is something that you need to know or do differently. Otherwise, use the mind and heart God gave you, and continue on the path you have chosen for yourselves.

[mom2malia]

Thank you so much for replying, it's so hard to think straight when you're right in the middle of it. What both of you said makes so much sense.
My husband and I have been fasting today and I really feel that what you both said is what the Lord is telling me also.
Juliana 13, ironically, your list of problems made me feel a lot better. It's nice to know that we're not the only ones whose world falls apart when they try to do something right! LOL

Thanks!
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Mom of one miracle, hoping for two!

[Juliana13]

Glad my list makes SOMEBODY feel better! I could have done without it, myself. In retrospect, it all makes sense - well, most of it -and the rest is just life. Hang in there. In the end, it's all good.