[irvy]

I just had to post my excitement. We matched with A. on Mother's Day this year and I was so afraid that a 6 month wait would be like a 6 month job interview. I was excited and apprehensive at the same time. Well it's been 6 months of joy. A. has let us be as involved with the pregnancy as we could possibly be without actually carrying the child myself. Now our little boy is due any day now and I'm about to bust. We've been to all but 1 dr.s appointment, both ultrasounds and several get togethers. We plan to continue a relationship after C. is born and I'm grateful for that.

So, does anyone have any advise for the hospital time? We will be there when he's born (I might even get to be in the delivery room) and we'll be taking him right home from the hospital.

irvy
mommy to a 3 year old angel
soon be mommy to a new angel any day now

[aspenhall]

give her all the time alone with him as you can...this is her only moment of parenting this child and she will cherish the time forever. talk to her about giving her space.....perhaps make it so she doesn't leave the hospital with empty arms. Ask her to be brutally honest with you so that so can help her get her needs met. if it's space, then tell her you will be happy to give her space, if it's companionship then you will be happy to stay by her side so she isn't alone.....help her advocate her needs with the hospital....make sure they treat her decent..i've heard horror stories from other bmoms...get loads of photos of the two of them, and all of you together. and more than anything be sincere and put her first....you'll have your son forever....she only has him those few short days.

[Daisha]

First of all...congratulations!! A six month wait may have been my undoing. I am not very patient but on the other hand...I would have done almost anything to have that relationship with Tyce's birth mom before he was born! We only had 3 weeks notice, so obviously we were not in the delivery room but M did choose to have placement at the hospital so we got to take him home from there!!

Just be honest with her and really ask her what her feelings are and what SHE wants to have happen!! M wanted that two days to be Tyce's mom and even though it was hard to know he was there, where he was and not be able to see him, I completely understood and respected her decision!

Good luck and God Bless!!

[fromtheheart]

Congratulations! I am envious - we did not get to see our son born. I hope to be able to have this opportunity in the future. I think that the best advice I can give is to remember that this is her time - the days she has in the hospital with her son will be the only days she has. This is her time to say goodbye as well as for her family. i remember the feeling when we had our son placed in our arms - you are so excited and yet feel so much sorow for her. It is truely a mixed bag of emotions and fear. Dont let your fears get in the way or your excitement and dont let you exitement get in the way of your concern, love, and empathy for your sons birthmom. Again, Congratulations!!!

[irvy]

What a beautiful, beautiful weekend. Our little Christopher is here and he's absolutely the most wonderful baby boy ever. If you're interested in seeing pictures you can go to Christopher Lakin, born Friday, November 17, 2006

The time in the hospital was amazing, A. wanted us there most of the time when it was visiting hours and gave us some alone time in the hospital with him. I had the other nursery arm band and was treated unbelievably well by the hospital staff. We gave her what time she wanted but she seemed to want us with her much of the time. We weren't in the delivery room but we were there at the hospital and got to see him right after her was born.

We brought Christopher home on Sunday and A. signed her relinquishments today before the courts. She is coming over tonight to scrapbook with me and life is just wonderful.

Happy Thanksgiving all. We have much to be thankful for.

irvy
mommy to 2 precious angels

[Forever_family]

I checked out the pictures and was so touched, you all were so beautiful. I'm so happy for you!

L