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Originally Posted By D. L.

I would just like to know what rights I have in looking for a child my mother gave up for adoption around 1977-78. He would be my half brother, but I would still like to know him. I am not quite sure how my mother feels about this, however. Thanks.

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Originally Posted By ?!?!?!?!?!!!

You sound like an adult -- and if over 17 or 18, you have every right in the world. And the best way to find out how your mother feels, is ask her -- quietly and when the two of your are alone, bring up the subject and see if she would be positive to your looking for your sibling. Now if the adoption was due to some painful causes, just gently remind her that was years ago and maybe, jut maybe, her son is looking for her. People understand a lot more today than even 15 or 20 years ago about reasons for adoption. And if it were me, I'd politely remind her that if you are old enough to know about your brother, you should be allowed to look for him - then ask her for help as to what state, town, or area to start your looking. She may surprise you and help you, but until you ask her how she feels, you will continue going on assumptions. And assumptions get you no where in life. Good luck and may God bless!