[melliemoo]

We are expecting a baby boy due on 9/13 (assuming all goes smoothly) and have planned his bris for when we get back from TN after the legal stuff is all taken care of. BIL informs us the other day he doesn't think he can attend, because he doesn't want to reschedule a SINGLE shift (with three months' advance notice) at work to be here. DH and I are terribly upset about this because we want our family to be present. My entire family is coming and they're not even Jewish (I'm a Jew by choice)!

And by the way, we attended their son's bris on the usual 8 days' notice, paying for last-minute expensive airfare and having to travel in the middle of the week and take at least two days off work.

Would you be upset? They know how long we've been trying to have a baby, but my b!tch of a SIL told me that didn't make my baby any more special than any other baby. We just think family should be present at special events, especially Jewish family.

Thanks for the rant,

Melissa =)

[jewishadoptionblog]

Dear Melissa,

First of all, I wish you all the best and hope everything goes smoothly!
Next, family can be - what's the word? - sticky at some times. Sometimes you give and give and can't understand why people won't put out the effort in return. Or give the courtesy of an appropriate apology or whatever. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but know that you are not alone.

Naomi

[kelceesmom]

Hi Melissa,
Glad to hear things are still going ok for you. As for the BIL. Are they usually like this with events? For me I would be upset momentarily. My next thought would be. The people who show are the ones meant to be there. They are who our true family and friends are. It is a very hard situation to be in but don't waste energy with it. The day will be about you all not them.

[melliemoo]

You know, he didn't come when my niece was born and they had a big party for her. And her brother is 5 months old and BIL hasn't met him either (they have a Japanese mother and are not being raised Jewish). He comes to visit when it's convenient for him, and that's it. DH and I don't like him anyhow, so it's not a huge loss. And you know, we're not wasting any more energy on it, it's not worth it. Thanks for letting me vent!

Melissa =)

[ourdreamcametru]

Hey Melissa, I don't think you are wrong to be upset because you have waited a long time for this but on the other hand, I wouldn't let it spoil the day for you and the family that does attend. Haven't heard from you in a while so I hope all is going well with M and the baby! Email me and catch me up.
Kelley