[KelMcG23]

Just like the title, wondering why everyone decided on an international rather than a domestic adoption

[mlb]

We were so burned out by all of the infertility treatments and I knew that I could not take another let down. We knew that the country we chose was stable, and had friends who also adopted from there. Ironically enough Russia shut down weeks before we left and we switched to Kaz (the agency also went there). Back then switches were quick and we left a month later to adopt our son.
Now I realize that my views of domestic adoption were skewed, but the uncertainty of "when will be chosen" was too much for my brain at that point in time. For our second adoption we went back to Kaz as we wanted our son to have that connection with his sibling.

[KarynB]

Our biggest reason was an intense connection to the country we adopted from. We love South Africa and its culture and peoples...and knew we had the ability to help foster that love and respect in our children as well.

We also wanted as young a child as possible (some of the babies are as young as 2-3 months old) as we dealt with attachment issues in our middle guy and wanted to avoid it if possible.

We love to travel and saw our IA as a lifelong connection to another country and culture.

[karla-k]

We wanted more children but we are not comfortable with all the risks and unknowns of domestic adoption and foster to adopt. We didn't like the idea of trying to sell ourselves to a birthmother and we had heard too many horror stories of how messed up the foster to adopt system can be.

Ultimately it came down to a desire both of us have had for a very long time, to adopt from a former Soviet country. We leave a week from tomorrow to meet our new son in Kyrgyzstan!!!

Karla

[tsang1983]

hmm this question is of importance to me as i was adopted in 1988 from hongkong and bought to New Zealand. As i was the only slanted eye growing up it proved difficult and etc
my adoptive parents were of no help as they were european and did not understand the asian culture. all through my early childhood and onto my college years i was often mocked and felt so out of place. to this day i am still struggling with my existence. my adoptive parents were mentally and physically abusive. i ran away from home many times and ended up in prison at the age of 18. joining with the triads at the age of 20. now i am trying to turn my life around which is difficult. i have issues that holds me back from doing anything and with my past criminal records its hard to acheive anything satisfactory. there is one thing that will always stick on my mind. a few days before i got adopted my birthmother came to visit me as she hadnt filled out all the proper forms she could only see me for a minute. at that time all i saw was her as any other person who often visited the orphanage. there are so many what ifs. if i had recognise her would she of taken me away and not let me up for adoption. it still haunts me to this day and will so for the rest of my life. so in saying all this when u adopt a child from overseas think of the consequences it will have on the child

[pgruodis]

Originally Posted by tsang1983

hmm this question is of importance to me as i was adopted in 1988 from hongkong and bought to New Zealand. As i was the only slanted eye growing up it proved difficult and etc
my adoptive parents were of no help as they were european and did not understand the asian culture. all through my early childhood and onto my college years i was often mocked and felt so out of place. to this day i am still struggling with my existence. my adoptive parents were mentally and physically abusive. i ran away from home many times and ended up in prison at the age of 18. joining with the triads at the age of 20. now i am trying to turn my life around which is difficult. i have issues that holds me back from doing anything and with my past criminal records its hard to acheive anything satisfactory. there is one thing that will always stick on my mind. a few days before i got adopted my birthmother came to visit me as she hadnt filled out all the proper forms she could only see me for a minute. at that time all i saw was her as any other person who often visited the orphanage. there are so many what ifs. if i had recognise her would she of taken me away and not let me up for adoption. it still haunts me to this day and will so for the rest of my life. so in saying all this when u adopt a child from overseas think of the consequences it will have on the child

You have made nearly the exact post several times on this forum over the last year. Many people responded with caring comments, and asked for more information. You have never responded.
http://forums.adoption.com/search.php?searchid=1715802
This leads me to conclude that either you wish only to vent and not participate in these discussions, or your posts are some kind of sick hoax.
I will not respond to the content of your post because you did not respond to me in the past.
I am outing you because games like this are hurtful and do not help this community. I would hate to think that some child does not join a loving family because your post scared someone from international adoption.

[ocracoke]

Originally Posted by tsang1983

so in saying all this when u adopt a child from overseas think of the consequences it will have on the child

What about the consequences of not being adopted? Most children available for international adoption are in orphanages. They are not being removed from homes. I will never advocate a child being placed in an abusive home. However, if my child (adopted internationally) was not in my home and if international adoption did not exist she would be raised in an orphanage with thousands of other kids and overworked and overwhelmed staff. She would remain there until she "ages out" of the system, which in some countries is as young as 13. And then she would be placed on the street to fend for herself. Maybe she would be resourceful enough to find a trade to support herself. Or maybe she was beg, live on the street, become a prostitute, or any other thing that seems unbareable to me. I adopted internationally. I adopted transracially. And while everything we do in life has consequences, I hope that she will one day understand all the love I give to her and all the dreams I have for her.

Samantha