[SAVeronika]

So after months of research it seems that things are suddenly coming together. On the one hand I'm elated, but on the other hand I'm suddenly very scared. I keep thinking "Are we doing the right thing?" Has anyone else suddenly experienced fear when it seemed that things were going right?

[kretzklan]

You are totally normal...don't expect those feelings to stop even after your kiddos are home! You'll double guess all these decisions for a long time. But, as with everything important in life - it would be weird if you didn't worry!

[2Bulgarianbeauties]

When we were pulling up to the orphanage to pick up my first daugher, I told the driver to turn around, the joke had gone far enough and I could not be a mom!

So, yes, I have had the fear, with both my daughters. I trudged through the fear, kept going, and have the two most beautiful daughters in the world!

[mlb]

Absolutely! I definitely felt fear, my husband felt the terror and we have two wonderful boys.

[SAVeronika]

Thanks for the reassurance! When I realized today that this can actually happen in the near future, I went into total panic mode! I kept thinking about how an adoption actually happening would change our lives so much and started fearing that we won't be able to do it! I really didn't expect to feel this panicky fear. I just thought we'd be elated if it happened, LOL.

[mlb]

The thing about adoption is that though it may take 4 or 20 months, the uncertainty of it does not lend itself to preparing physically and mentally for a child like a pregnancy does. I had days of wanting to talk about it all the time to times where I didn't want it mentioned for fear of biting someone's head off. Talk about hormones! Even when we had our son with us in the hotel room; my husband and I looked at each other and said what are we doing? Then we realized that no new parents truly know so we relaxed a bit. Good luck!

[jessibird]

Yes, always feel like "what am I doing!?" I think it is natural feeling that way when you are making such a big decision. I know even with my prenancies I felt that way too.