[USArmyWife1982]

Does/Did anyone feel like every wrong thing that possibly could happen with adopting did happen ? We are running into that now and are wondering if this is a sign that we just WERE NOT meant to be parents. How do you over come the obstacles and keep the faith ? Or is there just a point you reach where you have to accept that maybe its not going to happen ?

[mylovebug]

Some times when everything seems to be going wrong it just means you are doing exactly what God had plans for you to do and the enemy is putting up a fight. Don't give up!

[USArmyWife1982]

i just don't have it in me anymore.Every step we've take we taken 5 steps back, its just never going to happen and im throwing in the towel. Thanks for the kind words and good luck to everyone

[2Bulgarianbeauties]

Or it means you need to switch agencies and / or countries. A friend of mine was exactly where you are. Her agency could not complete her adoption, it went on and on with roadblock after roadblock. She switched agencies and brought home her child 3 months later.

Kay

[KarynB]

I guess you have to look at the consequences of giving up. If you stop, then there is no chance of bringing home that baby. If you keep going, no matter how hard it is, there WILL be a baby at the end of the tunnel. Do you have more details to share? Maybe we can help with some suggestions or advice?

And - here is ((((hugs)))) - trust me, we know how hard this journey can be. But roadblocks don't mean stop - they are there to test you to see how badly you want this.

[ocracoke]

Pursuing parenthood is an individual choice. Pursuing adoption is not always easy. You need to do what you think is right for you. I think I knew I would be a mom since birth. I made the decision to actively pursue parenthood at age 29. For the next 8 years my life seemed to constantly be going backwards. But I knew I wanted to be a mom. When I was 37 (almost 38) I held my daughter in my arms for the first time and knew that everything was worth it because I had her. Best of luck with your decision.

Samantha

[jenniferjp1969]

I have found that the best things in life are worth fighting for. The process of adoption is not easy...heck, parenting in itself isn't always easy. Adopting my daughter was the most rewarding thing I have ever done and when I look into her eyes, everything I went through to bring her home was so worth it. You just have to decide how badly you want to be a Mommy.

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by USArmyWife1982

Does/Did anyone feel like every wrong thing that possibly could happen with adopting did happen ? We are running into that now and are wondering if this is a sign that we just WERE NOT meant to be parents. How do you over come the obstacles and keep the faith ? Or is there just a point you reach where you have to accept that maybe its not going to happen ?

What obstacles are you dealing with? If you specify, I bet people would have great suggestions.

[Teekay74]

I get what your saying more than you would believe. I'm kind of at the cross roads trying to figure out what to do next. I really think it would be easier to quit, but will I feel that way in two years? I'm not so sure. So- I'm not rushing to make any descisions.
If you want to talk I'm here.

[USArmyWife1982]

I want to thank you all for the replies, I really appreciate them. Sorry I havn't gotten back to anyone... I needed to take some time away from the whole process to think and decompress a little. Now im back and revitalized and determined to make this work. We have instead switched to a different agency, a different program and just had our first home study appt. Things are moving along....Tho we are trying not to be negative rumor is hubby may get deployed before adoption is finalized.

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by USArmyWife1982

I want to thank you all for the replies, I really appreciate them. Sorry I havn't gotten back to anyone... I needed to take some time away from the whole process to think and decompress a little. Now im back and revitalized and determined to make this work. We have instead switched to a different agency, a different program and just had our first home study appt. Things are moving along....Tho we are trying not to be negative rumor is hubby may get deployed before adoption is finalized.

Sorry to hear about your DH and the possible deployment. My was deployed while we started our process.

Glad you're getting things figured out!

[Kittiwake]

I want to add to the encouragement. It took us six years, three countries, and four agencies before we finally found our daughter. She was worth every minute of waiting and every day of doubts and every roadblock we faced along the way. Keep the faith!