[wannabamom]

hi,
as a future adoptive mom, i am interested to know if any adoptees could give me insight on these issues for me:
1) DH and I are both from country A, live in country B and want to adopt from country C!!!!!
our question is for adoptee children:

Will it be better for us to adopt from the same country as we're originally from rather than the country C (Latin america?)
Are there any latin Americans adopted by others than Americans?????????

What issues will have to deal with?????

Thanks,

[mscostarica25]

I am an adoptee from Latin America, and was brought to US when I was 5. There I lived in a primarly white town and didn't know I was even latino until we moved to a larger city and spanish speaking people approached me. Having the child know spanish is very important and also understand the country where they came from. I wish I learned spanish at a young age, although my mom tried to teach me spanish I would reject it because that was being different. Now I beat myself up over it. My amother is white and was a missionary in Costa Rica for 8 years but that doesn't really matter to me. She could have lived there 30 years and still wouldnt make a difference. She is white, although I do not base everything of race the fact is the child will still see that difference, and know they are different from you. Let him or her have latino friends if thats what they choose and also encourage them to do so. They will eventually feel like they have missed a part of them.

[charlottesweb7875]

I think the real issue is what kind of adoptive parents the child gets. My husband is 1/2 German 1/2 black. He was adopted in Germany from a German woman who conceived a child with a black american who was stationed there in the military. His aparents are both black americans and he was raised his entire life in Las Vegas. He was not told he was adopted and didn't find out until he was about 16. Being biracial he noticed his lack of resemblance to his a parents, but never questioned it. Because his a parents always gave him unconditional love and support, it ultimately did not matter. Love is Love. It knows no bounds. I myself am "white" a mix of German, Native American and Irish and probibly other things if I ever traced my family tree back farther. So, that makes my children a lovely mix of many nations. None of us have "identity issues." We are who we are. Loving, honest, hardworking, americans. Hope this helps.