[gregorysparents]

Hello.

This will be my final correspondence on this forum.

I received a phone call from my County director this afternoon pointing out that I have broken the foster parent privacy rules in regards to some of the things that I have posted on this site. When she called, I honestly did not know what she was talking about - because it never even crossed my mind that I might have done something wrong.

I have found one error that I did do - I accidently (when I copied and pasted) showed the last name of one of our foster children's parents. I will say this right now - it WAS an honest mistake - I DID NOT KNOW that I had left their name on this post. When I found out about this error, I contacted someone from this board and they removed the parents last name within seconds.

I have tired for over a year to show everyone that while the system might appear not to work at times - we are lucky to have this system. Furthermore, I have ALWAYS stressed that the goal of the foster care system is REUNIFICATION. I have also encouraged people NOT to become foster parents if they were becoming foster parents just so they could adopt - that's not the goal of the system.

Furthermore, this was a good place for me to go to to learn and to vent. There is no support group close to us - so - this was my support group. I feel like I received some help and also have given help to others. Most importantly, I have made several friends because of this forum.

Finally, I have posted over 450 posts - with no negative feedbacks - I think that this is GREAT.

If I did break the privacy rules - I did it by pure accident. We could very well loose the placement we have because of this.

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers this week, as there will be a meeting on Thursday regarding this matter. I was not asked to attend. So, I am going to try to write a letter to the director apologizing for any errors that I might have made on this site.

Thanks to all of you that have provided us support and etc. since I first joined this forum - March 2005.

Christina

[lakin11]

Girl I am so furious for you! This is beyond BS! What is up with your agency?! Are you not allowed freedom of speech? Its not as if you are naming names! Even with the accident, it happens, and you ammended it as soon as you noticed! This is just so infuriating for me, I can't imagine how you are feeling. Big hugs and lots of prayers!
What is this meeting supposed to be about?

[tpakra]

Christina-

I left you a post on the other board.

Lakin-

I agree, I changed my signature too. Heaven forbid we put something the least bit identifying that it would take 200 posts to narrow down who we are.

[naca]

ohh sweetie I'm soo sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!

I'm with you girls, I'm changing my siggy now!!

[gregorysparents]

OK.....I have to break my silence because I don't want people to be afraid to use this site. Caseworkers don't have the time to "spy" on this site. Most caseworkers understand that as foster parents - we need to vent. I just (apparently) was not as careful as I should have been. I really think I only had one error out of over 450 posts - but - maybe I had more.

This is a WONDERFUL and I repeat this is a WONDERFUL site. Where else can you go 24/7 - sit in your pj's - eating cookies and drinking milk and for FREE get the WONDERFUL support and advice that you can here!?!?!? Sometimes it's like having your own Dr. - and for free.

Don't let my situation make you afraid to be on this site and ask for support. Just learn from my mistake. If anything positive can come out of this situation - it will be to be careful about what you post. Don't use names - I would not even use the first names of the kids - give them nicknames or use the first letter of their names. Be careful about giving out the county/town and etc. where you are located. Be careful to not give any info. that might break the privacy rules.

PLEASE - use this site. We have some wonderful moderators on this site that do a wonderful job catching people when they get close to giving out too much info.

You can truly learn a lot from this site. Please Please Please for those of you that don't have a support group - use this one - JUST BE CAREFUL.

Thanks to all of you that took the time to pm me. Your words of encouragement are the best. Don't give up on this site!!!!

Christina