[rjsmom]

The background - last night we met my FIL's girlfriend for the first time. She was talking about her grandsons. The oldest lives with his father and the mother (her daughter) has had her rights terminated. The other grandson is a 10 month old that has been in foster care. The dad (different from the oldest son's) was arrested yesterday and will be spending time in jail. The parents of the 10 month old are due in court on the 29th and are going to relinquish their rights and put the baby up for adoption. I asked the grandma if the family the baby was with was going to adopt him - she said no. That she didn't know what would happen to him but that the family thought it was best because the parents really would never be in any shape to parent. She also stated that the court was hoping to have a family member adopt - there is no one willing to do this. I don't have any details as far as health issues. I have not been able to stop thinking about this baby.

My question is what will happen with this baby? Will they change his placement to a family that is foster/adopt?

[lakin11]

Well, my guess would be they would be looking for a pre adoptive home for him. It's also possible that the foster parents do want to adopt, but haven't mentioned it to her. I know we would like to adopt our 3, but the bfamily doesn't know. The CW does, and has asked us if we will, but the family does not. We don't want to look like we aren't willing to work toward RU if thats what is to happen.
However, if the fparents are willing to adopt him, I'd say they are going to find a home for him that will. I take it the grandma has no interest in adopting him either? Hope it all works out for him.
Shannon

[rjsmom]

Shannon - thanks for your response. I don't know the specifics as to why the grandma won't take him - she just said that his aunt didn't want to take him because she has two girls already and just moved into a four bedroom house. Since it was the first time we had met her I didn't probe. I was just trying to absorb what was coming out of her mouth.

I know nothing about foster care (you know you only hear the negative stories) and was hoping that there was more to it on the fparents side.

I hope everything works out for you. And 3 under 6 - you must be exhasuted.

[lakin11]

Haha some days I am exhausted, However, we have lucked out.....these kids have very very few behavior problems. Nothing outside typical kid/sibling behavior.

Sadly there are waaaaaaaaay too many negative stories put out there, and not enough of the positive! There are soooooo many positive stories just not what the "media" likes to portray!
Shannon