[benandkatieh]

wondering just because it seems an open adoption would be a great thing for the child... had anybody had one (or partial) from india?

[pallavip99]

Hello,

I would think it would be difficult to have an open adoption from India primarily because most people give up their kids due to poverty. If they are too poor to even provide for their kids, I doubt they have a PC or even write letters often to maintain the openess of an adoption.

[sak9645]

An open adoption is unlikely. Most of the babies are abandoned, so the birthparents are unknown. Some orphanages have even developed special places where birthparents can leave the child without being seen, so that they will not leave the child in an unsafe place.

Remember that there is a stigma associated with relinquishing a child, in many countries. As a result, it is often done in secret.

Sharon

[melimon]

In India, all adoptions are officially closed since once the relinquishment papers are signed, no further contact is allowed with the child. However, this doesn't mean that they aren't some partially open unofficial ones. This will be our case.

At the orphanage we adopted from in India last year, the mothers are known as they also run a women's shelter for unwed pregnant women, offering them prenatal care and vocational training. The orphanage we are currently adopting from in India, the parents are also known. They also have a similar program for women. Adoption is kept confidential to protect the unwed mother in particular, who would have very little future if her secret were to be known, not to mention the shame she would live with, and in extreme cases to protect her life. While parts of India has experienced intense globalization over the last few years, the majority of the people still have very strict moral codes regarding such matters. And while typically poverty is a great factor in child relinquishment, there has been a growing number unwed middle class women in the picture.

[benandkatieh]

Originally Posted by melimon

However, this doesn't mean that they aren't some partially open unofficial ones. This will be our case.

i would love to know what orphanage you are adopting through, as even if the adoption couldn't be what we know traditionally as "open" with regular contact, just for the adopted child to know they birth parents' name if they would want to have contact someday with them would be such a cool thing to have as an option.