[radesai]

Hello All,

I am very new to this board.

I am Indian origin and have a biological child (a son). I always wanted to adopt a girl from India since I was in my late teens.
God has blessed me with a wonderful husband who supports my decission.

We recently started with our paper work. To adopt a girl from India most likely the child will be under 2 year.

Reading stuff on line and other articles some times I am confused and unsure of my decission. I get nervous.

I am sure this is part of the process.

Can some who has bio child and adopted child help me with the issues that you have come across. If possible how you have over come those.

I understand I am very far from my whole process but want to make myself well aware and prepare for the future.

I live in Virginia do you know any families or group that we can join.

Thank You
Ritu

[jim123e]

We adopted a little girl age 3.5 in April. This was our 2nd child, the first being a girl age 10mos from RMI in 2003.

I was nothing but nervous prior to travel with both children but it all went away when I got the 1st smile.

India was our first choice but the process took very long due to CARA issues in 2002.

Our experience in India was nothing but positive. All seemed to be very supportive of adoption as they know the little opportunities that the orphans have. We felt like superstars and many gave complements and thanked us for taking on the responsibility of raising our "lucky little girls"

I now want to help all the babies in India and RMI but can only do so much. I just hope that our girls will someday want to give back to thier birth countries.

[ModernMother]

Are you asking about the problems you may have adjusting to an adopted child in comparison to a biological child? If so I can adress this issue.

I have three biological sons and just adopted a three-year-old princess from Orissa India. I fell in love with her picture and throughout the process longed to have her home.

She had a different view of the situation. She loved her caregiver and it truly broke her hear to leave her. She cried and cried and wanted nothing to do with me, this was difficult for me to accept. (you can read the whole story on my website here http://modernmother.jaimemavie.com/h...e_journey.html) It was very hard and though I thought I had prepared myself for how it might feel I was really scared.

My daughter has since been home for three months. While she sometimes does things that bother me a little more than my bio kids I can honestly say she's just one of the bunch. She is loving and sweet and I couldn't ask for a more perfect child. I'm so grateful every day for the experience of becoming her mother and I hope to adopt again very soon!

[goforit]

Originally Posted by radesai

Hello All,

I am very new to this board.

I am Indian origin and have a biological child (a son). I always wanted to adopt a girl from India since I was in my late teens.
God has blessed me with a wonderful husband who supports my decission.

We recently started with our paper work. To adopt a girl from India most likely the child will be under 2 year.

Reading stuff on line and other articles some times I am confused and unsure of my decission. I get nervous.

I am sure this is part of the process.

Can some who has bio child and adopted child help me with the issues that you have come across. If possible how you have over come those.

I understand I am very far from my whole process but want to make myself well aware and prepare for the future.

I live in Virginia do you know any families or group that we can join.

Thank You
Ritu

Hi Ritu,

My name is Sonia Mehta-Venkatesh. I am a new member to this board. When I read your posting, I felt like I had written it.

My husband and I are of Indian origin. We have a biological son who is 4 years old. We would like to adopt a baby girl from India to complete our family. I was born and brought up in Bombay. Just like you, I have always wanted to adopt a baby girl ever since I was a teenager. Fortunately, my husband is a wonderful guy, who is very supportive.

We live in California, and have just started the adoption process. I have some of the same thoughts, and concerns you have expressed in your email above. I would love to share my experiences so far, with some one in a similar situation. It may make the process less daunting for both.

I'd be happy to forward my email address to you, if you'd like to get in touch. May be we can support each other through this process. Good luck to all of us.

Take care,
Sonia

[CK Chalekode]

Originally Posted by radesai

Hello All,

I am very new to this board.

I am Indian origin and have a biological child (a son). I always wanted to adopt a girl from India since I was in my late teens.
God has blessed me with a wonderful husband who supports my decission.

We recently started with our paper work. To adopt a girl from India most likely the child will be under 2 year.

Reading stuff on line and other articles some times I am confused and unsure of my decission. I get nervous.

I am sure this is part of the process.

Can some who has bio child and adopted child help me with the issues that you have come across. If possible how you have over come those.

I understand I am very far from my whole process but want to make myself well aware and prepare for the future.

I live in Virginia do you know any families or group that we can join.

Thank You
Ritu

Ritu:

We have included case histories of similar situations in our web page www.rkas.org (Raji Krishna Adoption Seva). If you have any questions, email me privately.

Best wishes,

CK Chalekode
(www.rkas.org)