[white_elephant]

Manoleus,

Thank you for sharing your experience. I've had the same things said to me. I want to add that it isn't that they just "said" those awful crushing things, it's that it's like torture from the inside out! I'll not go into all the detailed things that were said and all the hateful ways they were said in this forum b/c it would be deleted for being to mentally and emotional molesting and graphic. Nor do I wish to draw attention to what might be considered by anyone who reads it as I am still stuck on it. I still remember, but even that is slowly fading. I'm a success story. I have to tell you why... Some will understand, some won't. And such is life. Those who do will be as happy as they were sad when they read my first post. I have to post this because it's undone until I do.

That being our reality, I have personally found grace and mercy and the real love of Christ (Christian to me means I know His Spirit for my own). He is precious to me. I am still totally amazed how Jesus could still speak to me and still help me understand His real love verses what I was being told, and our society advertises as love.

God says "Let the redeemed of the Lord say so." I am redeemed, and it's time I said so.

His grace is sufficient for me.

Marilyn

[never_good_enough]

And they love their adopted kids just as much as their born to them children. Yeah I believe that!

[barb_hart]

All I can say is that I have been dealing with the EXACT same problem. Met my half brother when I was 18 and now I am almost 40. We were then kept apart all these years. We found each other on facebook last week and have talked. We were kept apart because he knew who my father is... it is my uncle! So if I wasn't already messed up enough, i really am now. Be careful what you wish for. They are big Catholic people and all along I thought it was a priest or something and that is why no one would tell me.

Best of luck in your search, but prepared for more pain.

Renee