[face2faceintime]

Boy, I sure wish all you guys were around here. I can't begin to estimate the value of a local support group consisting of the people who've already taken the time to be so encouraging, personable and interested. I hate it that your daughter wasn't given your letter. That's so wrong! I wish you could have heard 'wrong son' when I thought he was mine and told him about 'the letter.' I asked him if he got it (not knowing of course, how tings would unfold) and he said, "Oh...man...I'm so sorry. They never gave me any letters from you. I feel so bad [b]for you[b], here you've been waiting all this time thinking I that I didn't want to call you, and if I had had that letter I would have called you [b]that day! "[b] He was so sweet. I sure hope my son was given the letter. I'm going to give my attorney a little time. She said she'd get back with me by the end of this coming week. After that, I'll have to do some thinking. I guess I'm a little scared. In the mean time...'wrong son' doesn't live so far away and is playing in a band. He invited me to come, so guess where I'll be??? Oh...I almost forgot .... ((((HUGS)))) right back!!

[doinit4me]

Hi Face2face,
I just wanted to tell you what a wonderful person you are! At a time when you're emotions must be going hog wild, to take the time to reach out to someone whom you meet by fate...to see someone else's pain and want to help...that takes a very special person. Who knows, maybe you can help each other through this process. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason.

I wish you all the best! Keep us posted not only with your search but with what happens with the "wrong son". Sounds like it's the beginning of a beautiful friendship! LOL!

Lori

[MrsHoot]

Originally Posted by face2faceintime

Boy, I sure wish all you guys were around here. I can't begin to estimate the value of a local support group consisting of the people who've already taken the time to be so encouraging, personable and interested. I hate it that your daughter wasn't given your letter. That's so wrong! I wish you could have heard 'wrong son' when I thought he was mine and told him about 'the letter.' I asked him if he got it (not knowing of course, how tings would unfold) and he said, "Oh...man...I'm so sorry. They never gave me any letters from you. I feel so bad [b]for you[b], here you've been waiting all this time thinking I that I didn't want to call you, and if I had had that letter I would have called you [b]that day! "[b] He was so sweet. I sure hope my son was given the letter. I'm going to give my attorney a little time. She said she'd get back with me by the end of this coming week. After that, I'll have to do some thinking. I guess I'm a little scared. In the mean time...'wrong son' doesn't live so far away and is playing in a band. He invited me to come, so guess where I'll be??? Oh...I almost forgot .... ((((HUGS)))) right back!!

How fun! How wonderful that you will be taking time out to be there for this young man. I hope you have a wonderful time! And hope you get the news you want from your attorney and soon!

C.

[lakewoman5822]

i'm with the mrs.

please don't wait. also, please do not assume he knows a thing. based on personal experience, it's very highly doubtful he knows anything at all.

[quilliam]

In my opinion, I think all this "coincidental information" about your birth son, is a Sign from the LORD, telling you to search for your son!

I believe your disclosure of contact with your son, has been met, since he is over 18 yrs. of age. What is stopping you from doing the initial searching? It sounds like you really want to be Reunited with him someday. I hope someday you are Reunited, what is meant to be, will be.

[face2faceintime]

Dear Quilliam,
Thanks for your encouragement. Interestingly enough, "wrong son" has sent a message to my son for me. He offered to do that b/c he felt that it was the least threatening way to contact him and still help me reunite with him quicker than maybe it would have happened on it's own. Obviously, my son had not yet decided to search for me, but we thought that a message from this other 22 year old, simply saying that he had received all my info by mistake and has it for him if he's interested, would be a good way to open the door, so to speak. Unfortunately, that was a month ago, and so far...nothing. I am trying to be patient, but it is hard. I am hanging on to your words, "what is meant to be, will be." God is in control.

[quilliam]

Originally Posted by face2faceintime

God is in control.

If it is the Will of the LORD it will happen.
When we were searching for his birth family, the ups and the downs were sometimes unimaginable. We also one time had contacted the "Wrong Family" and it hurt him so badly and he wanted to quit his search. Of course, picking up the pieces, getting ourselves back together, we went back to searching and several months later we found his Real Family. Unfortunately though, four days after finding his Birth Mother his Adoptive Mother passed away. I tell him often, "it was the Will of the LORD, to find your birth mother, so the LORD could take his adoptive mother out of her pain. Also I felt this was His Will because he loved his adoptive mother so very much and to find his biological mother just before, did help a bit to soften the loss.

We will PRAY it is the Will of the LORD for you to be Reunited. Hopefully after the initial shock wears off, your birth son, will give you that call, you have been waiting so many years to receive.