[StevenPT]

I remember it distinctly, what that means psychologically I don't know but here is the story regardless. My sister(biological to my adoptive parents) and I were as usual for a six year old(me) and a 13 year old(her) fighting over something innane, a box of nilla wafers we both wanted sole access to. After a few minutes she decided it would be prudent to tell me that the wafers were hers just like our parents were hers and not mine, she said "Mom and Dad will want me to have them because they love me more than you because you aren't their son, you're adopted." I asked my parents and they confirmed this(the adoption not the wafers) and for the last eighteen years it has been a constant thorn in my mental and emotional side. Anyone have some helpful advice or a similar story of discovery?

[sweetpea012607]

Wow, I can't say that my story is exactly the same, but I found out when I was 8 years old from a best friend at school. I ran home and asked my a-mom and she told me I was and I remember crying for weeks on end. I was so upset with my friend. So in a way I know where you're coming from. I know what it's like to hear from someone other than who you consider your parents. I'll help you in any way, shape, or form that I can.

A Friend.

[krybaby]

I remember when i was 4 i broke my brothers truck. He yelled at me I hate you your not even my real sister. My parents told me that night. It hurts. It sometimes still does. Its hard to look at them and see that i am not there kid. I look nothing like them. I am a odd man out. I long to know how i look like. But am getting no ware for 18 years. NO help at all. I know how you feel all to well. I hope that someone can help you find what your looking for or want. I guess you have to look inside yourself. Do you feel let down by your parents? Do you know that they love you? In a way you are more important in a way then your sister. You where wanted so much that they got you.

[PaPAdoptee]

Sending you a big hug StevenPT. My experience was different [Ill post my story as a new thread soon :O)], but I wanted to know if you read any books or sought any support? The initial discovery is very painful. I think sorting out exactly what was so painful (everyone else in family knowing but you vs. being told that way vs. your parents not being the first to tell you vs. that your sister would say something that hurtful etc). That's helped me , whenever I recall a painful adoption moment, I really sort out (by writing in a journal or colored paper) my emotions. Hope this helped.