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Old 06-04-2001, 12:08 PM
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How do you find out if you were or were not adopted? I have reason to believe I am.
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Old 06-06-2001, 04:55 PM
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Re: ADOPTED?
Originally Posted By ks

I was going to post the same question...I have never been told I was adopted but there are so many reasons I believe I am. I have a birth certificate with both my parents names on it, so I always assumed they were my birth parents, but I am told it can be changed after an adoption...
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Re: ADOPTED?
Originally Posted By Lisa

This simplest thing to do is ask your parents or (if you parents are deceased) any other members of your family. Lay your cards on the table. Tell them what you want to know and be honest and forthcoming, even when you tell them what information led you to believe that you are adopted.

Yes, the birth certificate is amended after adoption.
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Old 06-30-2001, 08:38 PM
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Re: ADOPTED?
Originally Posted By A Birthmom

How old are you? What state are you in? What made you start to think you might be adopted?
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Old 07-01-2001, 08:30 PM
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Originally Posted By ks

I don't know if you are asking me or the original poster...but I will answer.
I am 36 in NY. There are many reasons I believe I was adopted (parents ages, they are much older than most parents, never saw pictures of my mom pregnant, etc) but I prefer not to list them here. If you want to exchange emails addresses, I would love to communicate that way. K
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Re: ADOPTED?
I don't know your age or state, but this is my story. I recently was going through my Mom's things, as we had to admit her into an assisted living facility. I, too, had reason to believe that I was adopted. States are differsnt, but in the state I am from, the adoptive records are open if your adoption took place prior to 1963, which mine did. I filled out a form (I got it on my state's web site.), had it notorized and submitted two forms of identification I also had to send a copy of my marriage license to link the names). I received my records in 4 weeks and it would have been sooner had I known about the marriage license. It cost $20. They wouldn't tell me at the state if I was adopted or not until I sent the $20 & the form. They would return my money with a letter, if not. I figured it was worth $20 either way to just know. Good Luck.
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Originally Posted By ks

Did you find anything in your mom's things to help you know? I helped mom clear out her house a couple of years ago, and if she had any records of an adoption, she hid them well. Now she has Alzheimers and there is no way she could answer me if I asked her.
I was born in 1964, but I don't know what my state law is about adoption. I'll have to chek into it.
I would really like to find out, not that it would matter, my mom and dad were the one who raised me and my sister and gave us a good life, but I have had some medical happenings that don't "mesh" with the rest of the family. It's agony not knowing the truth. And I am 99 percent sure I was adopted. If it's true, though, it's amazing that nothing ever leaked out in all these years.

One thing that alerted me most was when my mom referred to mine and my sister's births, she always said "when I GOT you girls", never "When I HAD you." As a young kid, I never thought anything of it. As I got older, that along with other things, tipped me off that this wasn't normal. I always say to my kids "When you were born", or "when I was pregnant with you", or "When I had you".
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Originally Posted By JEN

IF YOU ARE 18 OR OVER GO TO THE HOSPITAL YOU WERE BORN AT AND ASK FOR YOUR B-CERTIF. IT TAKES A FEW DAYS BUT THEY WILL SEND IT TO YOU OR YOU CAN PICK IT UP
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Re: ADOPTED?
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how old are you?
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If you are asking me, I am 36.
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Originally Posted By Little D

All Adoptions are recorded with the state no matter if it was a private adoption or a agency adoption. You could request what is called non identifying information from the state. If they dont have anything for you I dont think you were adopted. If you get the non id it would ahve descriptive information about the bparents but no names. go to this site for address and phone # for your state http://www.adopting.org/non_id.html . Good luck
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