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Originally Posted By Allyson

Hi. I was adopted into a very loving, happy family that spoke of my adoption frequently. It was never a question, I knew I was adopted from the very beginning. I always thought I was EXTRA special because when people found out I was adopted they would make it SUCH a big deal...in elementary school it was a little different. People would say small remarks ("i'm glad i'm not adopted, i wouldn't want to know I wasn't loved...&quot. but I have come to the conclusion that it is just the opposite. 99% of the time the brithmom/dad can't supply the needs you need. My birthmom was too young, not married, lived with her parents, etc... I was "reunited" with her and we are really close now. It's not that I'm replacing my A-mom, it's just that I have 2 mom's that love me so I should love both of them. And I do. Sometimes I get a little upset about the complicated mess called "my life" but I try to remind myself that all of this has a purpose. She could have aborted me...no one would have known of her mistake. She wouldn't have had to worry about me at all...but she carried me for 9 months with more than Love for me in her heart and then instead of being selfish and keeping me to live with her (someone who could not afford a child or raise a child the way she thought was right) she put me in another family's open arms. If you think about it - that's really cool! So to all of you who are WORRIED about meeting your b-parent(s), don't be. Everything will work out for the best, and for those b-parent(s) out there...Don't worry either. Sometimes it is hard for US...we have parents that love us and we don't want them to feel like we are REPLACING them. Give us time...at least let him/her know that you are willing to have a relationship if they want or when they are ready.
Good luck and GOD BLESS!

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Originally Posted By Mary Smith

Dear Allyson,
Thank you for the lovely message. As a birth mom, I have not had the words to put in a letter to my birth daughter when she looks up her records at the adoption agency. You have given me a start. Your thoughts in print touched my heart. God Bless you too.