[mpower1984]

I only found out 2 days ago who my bmom is. My 14 year old sister told me. She tole me that her bestfriends aunt gave uo a little girl for adoption who was born the same day that I was. She also told us the aunts name. My Mother taol me that she knew at that point that this aunt was my bmom because when mom recieved the pictures of me from the hospital, the bmoms name was still on the front of the envelope. Mom told me that she has known for years the name of this lady but didn't want to tell me until I was ready to search for her. I was and still am in shock about how all of this came about. I know this family and, as I said my sisters bestfriend is my bmoms neice. I went to school with her friends sister and I have always known this family. It amazes me how close I have been to knowing her for so long and it took my 14 year old sister to break this whole thing open. I just don't know where to go from here. Any suggestions?

[Southernroots]

What would you like to do with this new information? Or are you wanting to approach your birth mom and want advice on how to do it?

I think you have some big decisions ahead of you at any rate and need to spend some time pondering all this new information for starters.

[mpower1984]

I want to meet her. I wasn't looking really looking for her, though I had brought it up to my aparents 2 years ago. We decided to wait b/c my amom had cancer and it was to much for her to handle at that point in her life. It's just that I know so much about her now, like where she lives, shes married and has 2 little kids (my 1/2 brother is 5 and my 1/2 sister is 2) and I feel that I'm ready to meet her but I'm excited and scared all at the same time. It's alot to take in and I realize that I dod need to take my time and process the information. I spoke to a post adoption social worker yesterday and she called me back moments ago and told me that my bmom was not registered yet and that, if I feel comfortable enough with the family ( and I do) that Ishould mention it to them and see if they'll talk to her about registering.

[healingfeeling]

Wow Mpower1984,

That is unbelievable! Your sister's best friend is your little cousin!!!!! How cool is that? Do you guys look alike?

You're probably in a whirlwind right now, and I hope that you and your bmom have the courage to reunite...if that's what you want.

[mpower1984]

yeah, it is pretty unbelivable, and on eof the girls that I went to school with is (hopefully) my cousin. We are in the process right now of registering with Post adoption and I know that she is not registered. We contacted my friends family last night and they are going to try to talk to her about registering. Hopefully she will and we can confirm what we already feel to be true.

[Chelseamorning]

Well don't keep us hanging! Did you two meet yet???

[Nikki1]

I know exactly what you are going through as I found out that my best friend that I shared a room with at boarding school was my first cousin. We were always asked if we were related and we used to laugh it off. Fast forward 15 years and I start to wonder about my past and decide to try to find my birthmother. It didn't take long, found her details neally immediately on the internet as a distant family memeber had a family tree and this girls name showed as part of my birthmothers immediate family. I told my husband how strange that my friend had the same name as my first cousin. It turned out to be the same person and she is a great intermediatery for the family. She knows things such as me and my birthmother have the same favourite food, same smile & little things that are easier to talk to her about. I would embrace this opportunity but I know how much of a shock it is when you realise that you actually know some of your natural family already.
All the very best with whatever you decide to do!

[k_k]

Come across this thread........just wondering what the outcome of it all was..........hoping and praying it was good.

[susiesgirl]

that is sooo cool that you have basically known your family forever.