[scratchdav]

My husband and I have adopted 2 little girls (2 -3 yrs. old) that are his 1st cousins GRANDkids. We all live close to each other and I was trying to figure what is the best way for the girls to understand who is who. There are so many grandmothers, greatgrandparents, uncles... So many people, I don't know what is healthy and how much interaction. Are there any adoptees out there in such a situation that could offer me any advice on what is best for my girls? Thank you for any help.

[Duchie]

I know it's a little hard for them to understand now, but in time you can explain everything to them. Honesty is the best. That way it won't come back to bite you later - lol.

Kids, if given the chance will understand things in little doses, but age 2-3 is kinda young yet.

How does your family feel about it?

[scratchdav]

My family is so excited about the girls, we have wanted kids for years. My mother feels though that the bio. family takes away our time - they are too much. Which they do tend to come around more than our own family. They like to smother us.. My family is the type that lets us lead our own life and don't interfer - the bio. is always in the middle of EVERYONES business, mine included. Another relative on the bio. side made the comment to them though that we adopted the girls - NOT them.. They didn't take kindly to that.

[summerlin]

well it is important that the girls know why and where they come from. but it also important that the bio family keep some distance to give the girls time to adjust to the new inviorment . but never let them for get who they have become either .

[Scarlet Moon 13]

Originally Posted by summerlin

well it is important that the girls know why and where they come from. but it also important that the bio family keep some distance to give the girls time to adjust to the new inviorment . but never let them for get who they have become either .

Didn't you say this was your husband's bio family that the girls came from? Why would your family expect you to stay away from hubby's family?

Just a question...