[swtteen]

I found out that i was adopted when i was nine years old and now im 17. My step cousins on my fathers side were joking about it and i didnt believe them so of course being nine i asked my parents and they said it was true but they were waiting for the right time to tell me. Is there ever a good time? Well i was crushed and couldnt talk to any of my family, i mean they werent my family to me anymore, thye lied. I didnt know who i was anymore i felt like a part of me was missing i met my mother that year and i still talk to her and visit her but i cant find my father. One day i found my adoption papers and his name was on them. Billy Keith, I want to find him to fill in the gap i have. Its hard seeing as im not 18 yet and i dont think he's looking for me. None of my friends understand so i really have nobody to talk to about this..

[Stephanie 7]

Hello I know how you feel. I was adopted also,but I always knew. Its hard because sometimes you dont know where you belong. I found my biological family but they really just wanted to see how i am doing when they found me they were jealous because I had a good life. you must ask yourself does he know about me? Seeing that you are still under age I would ask your mom. I hope this helps you a little.


Stephanie

[raduga]

Hang in there! I know it's tough, but sometimes you just kind of have to go with the flow. If you've found a name, then I'm sure you'll find your birth father, when the time is right. Meanwhile, if you have friends to talk to about this - people you trust and who will be supportive - then you'll probably find yourself stronger and better prepared when you finally open that door to your past.

I hear you on the "lies" issue. That's one of the things that destroyed my mom's relationship with her adoptive parents. I hope your relationship with your adoptive family recovers, if you want it to, if it's worth saving.

-raduga