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hello, i was in your exact same position about a year ago. my mothers cousin sent me a baby picture of my mother, and she told me in a note that the picture was taken right after my mom was adopted. now i was not suprised because i had noticed several things that did not make sense in the past. however i kept it to myself. on this occasion i told my sister. [ i probably told her because she has a reputation for being a blabber mouth] and of course she told it, so that took the heat off of me. my mother was devastated, she felt that she had been decieved her entire life. at my mothers direction, i posted a thread right here on this very website, and within 4 weeks i had a response from her birth family, they had been searching for 55 years. my birth grandmother lived only a few hours away, and my mother met her and several brothers and sisters. it worked out for our family, and we have come to treasure the few years we will have with our new grandma, as she is getting on in years.. however many reunions do not turn out happy. and if your father in law is over 50 there is an even greater chance that his birth mother may be deceased. this may leave him with more unanswered questions than he can deal with. on the other hand medical history is very important and from that standpoint he needs to know. we are very grateful for a happy reunion, but i asked my mother about it today, i called her and told her i was going to respond to your post. and to my suprise my mother said to tell you...sometimes it is better to let sleeping dogs lie...so i hope this has helped you.
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01-12-2004, 05:48 PM
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