[cbmstephanie]

Hello All
My husbands best friend has lead the good life for the past 15 years or so...executive with a couple of national chains that you all would know or shop with on a weekly basis, home in Dallas, home in Cabo, trips to Europe, expensive cars...the works.

He started his own business, got married (to a gal with a 10 year old), the recession hit, his business went bust, he went bust, his marriage went bust and now he is really on the wrong side of life.

We have known that things weren't peachy for a few months but last night he called and it sounded really bad....bad as in I fear he may take his own life.

He's living out of his car so communication is a problem, and the reason my DH hasn't been able to get in touch with him for the past few months, but my DH spoke to him tonight.

DH told him we love him and we would do anything for him, we have the ability to give him a job, (obviously won't be an executive job but it will be a job that earns an honest days wage) and we would get him a plane ticket and he could stay at our home while he gets back on his feet. He's waiting for a call from his wife either tonight or tomorrow morning and then he will either be on his way here or he will opt to stay there.

He is my daughters god parent so I love him and trust him and want him to get back on his feet as soon as possible....I just don't want him to do something stupid before he can get to a place with a little normalcy. As I told my husband...while our home is crazy most of the time, it's probably just what he needs to realize that, it's not so bad, we're not millionaires and we're happy and he can gain a little perspective and then either go back to Dallas...or get a job here and start over.

I'm also worried about his wife and the child that just recently started thinking of him as a dad...what is this situation doing to him? I can only imagine.

The guy could sell ice to eskimo's so he will find a job here in no time, I am completely certain he will be making more money than my DH and I combined in no time! I am just worried that he will opt to stay there, stay sleeping in his car, stay depressed and end up committing suicide. I know my DH is laying awake upstairs thinking the same thing.

Please pray that he doesn't do anything stupid, and hopefully he makes the decision to come here tomorrow, whether it's forever or if it's just for a week or two while his wife and he work things out so that they can be a family again. I am just so scared that he will think that he is a failure and will be too embarrassed to take us up on our offer and the world will be one very special guy less tomorrow!

[annaguat]

I am so sorry to hear. It is a hard time for many people. I hope times will change for him. Anna

[rlf0504]

Prayers and positive thoughts for all of you. You're wonderful friends actually taking action to help, not just talking about it. Hope things work out well for everyone.
Take good care.

[Slatond10]

Sending good thoughts and prayers. I have a friend I pray for everyday as well.

She has lost so much... Her DH was alcoholic and they finally called it quits. Then her health started to decline. She lost both her dogs to cancer. Her health continued to decline and she lost her job. After a year and 1/2 one doctor diagnosed toxic mold poisoning ... her house was tested and she had to sell. Her health was so bad @ this point that she had to live w/ someone for care. Her father and stepmother kicked her out after a short time. Now her mother has lung cancer. And although she is out of the environment w/ the toxic mold her heath is not improving. She has been thru 2 + years of medical and even the mayo clinic... with no solid diagnosis. She is losing the use of the left side of her body / leg ..etc.

I just keep praying for her. But her life sounds like "job" from the bible. And she is staying forever faithful thankfully!

[momraine]

Sending prayers.