[JustBarbara]

What would you do? I have a good friend who posts a lot of pictures of her and her twin boys on her facebook account. I was just looking at her recent postings and there was one of one of the boys full body frontal picture. I'm not a prude by any means but am very protective of children. How do I approach my friend - I'm concerned that someone might report her to DSS or CPS. I think it's innapropriate and the kid is not a baby. Do I just ignore it or risk what her response might be ... Help - any helpful comments would be appreciated.

[mom2behappy]

As a friend I would say something I would tell her that as a friend I felt the picture was innappropiate and that I would be worried that someone would see it as child porn and report me. maybe she hasn't thought of it that way

[SKL]

I would probably make a "joke" about it to make her realize some might consider it a reportable offense.

I recently reconnected with a very old friend and we exchanged photos of our kids. The one he sent me had him carrying his naked kid in some outdoor place. The kid was at least 5-6 and in a very carefree pose, shall we say. Personally I wouldn't share that online but I guess it doesn't faze some people.

[JustBarbara]

Thanks Forum Friends - I'm probably a little hyper sensitive to it because a guy on our street is facing sentencing for having child porn on his computer and it makes me a bit wigged out that someone with his tendencies might have access to similar pictures.

[mom2behappy]

photos like that are personal and shouldn't be online where preditors can view them

[dpen6]

Ask her if she wants her son posted on a pedophile site because thats what they do, ask her if she wants some pervert staring at her son "that way"...because thats what they do.

I don't mean to be so crude but I strongly beleive that sometimes those of us that think its a remote chance may not listen to the warnings. Her sons picture is a threat to him.

sad that a picture of a little one can be so scary on line.

[crick]

I second Dpen's suggestion of just asking her if she's thought of pedophiles looking and copying her child's picture for their enjoyment.

[Mommy K]

A good friend won't mind if you say something.You care about her & her little ones and this is how I would say it.

Even though her motives are pure, it doesn't mean there aren't creepy people (mldly put) are seeing them.
Good Luck!

[bhouston]

So can anyone see your pics if they are not on your friends list on FB? If so how do you make it private so only friends can view pics? TIA Beth in Idaho

[lmvsmom]

Yeah, bhouston, you have to specify who can see the pics and it gives you several options. "Only Friends" is not the default so you have to go and change it.

[BethanyB]

If my friend had a picture like that up, I would just go to her nicely and say, "Hey I saw that picture of your child naked, and ya know, I hate to even bring it up but do you think someone may get the wrong idea? You don't want anyone calling CPS. You never know who is seeing those pictures."

I think being a concerned friend would be helpful.

To be honest with you, I have many friends on facebook, some are classmates from high school that I never was even friends with. People ask to be friends so they can see what you are up to now out of curiosity. I don't know what those people are like now. I don't know if they are pedophiles. It actually made me think one day when I was posting fully clothed pictures of my kids. I actually went through and deleted some friends that I didn't really know that well because of that.

Even when my kids were little I took a picture of them leaning on the couch with their butts to the camera. It was SO cute and innocent but then when I went to get the film developed, I got all paranoid that someone was going to call the cops on me. LOL!

I do not take pictures of my kids lower frontal private areas. Even when they were babies. I would put a baby washcloth over my son's private area for the baby bath pictures.

[amyfk]

HI JustBarbara,

I dont think it's appropriate at all for a naked picture of a minor, or anyone else for that matter on Facebook. I would definitely talk to her. For what she may think is cute, can land her in a lot of trouble!'
Amy K, NJ