[amyfk]

HI to the room,

You have been an invaluable support of information before so I figured ID ask you.
This past weekend we were invited to a birthday party from my child's class. I dont know the parents well but we went, had a good time etc.
A friend of mine from the class(mom) is on the friend list of this parent and I noticed that she posted the pictures from her child's birthday party. Anyway there was one or two photos of my daughter(though not tagged).
Anyway I dont mind having photos of myself up there but I dont like having my child's pics posted on Facebook. I just dont feel comfortable with it.
Am I being oversensitive first of all? And second, if Im not how do you approach the mom and ask her to takeyour child's pics down?
Thanks and not too hot on social networking and sharing,
Amy K, NJ

[Withay]

You might try talking with the parent and explain that you are uncomfortable with having your daughters picture posted. She might be able to crop your daughter out of the pictures or take them off completely.

[myrachel]

I wiuld just say that you arent comfortable with having your daughters pics online. Ive done it before & it was no big deal

good luck

[dac_cincy]

First she should have said upfront that she was posting them that way you could have indicated that you are uncomfortable with them beingthere-
Secondily, you need to tell her now that you are uncomfortable and ask her to remove them

I post pictures on my blog (open) and on FB, but all my friends know that I post them and that I never use names- I am always willing to not post. After other discussions out here, I am trying, in public settings, to only post pictures with my son in them so as not offend any parents whose kids are in the background.

This is your child and you have the right to protect her image.

Love and hugs,

[shelbydog]

I would ask her to remove them. I stopped putting pics of my kids on FB. I send photos to my friends and family privately.

A bit of an offshoot, but is there anyone out there besides me who can no longer stand FB? I am beginning to think it is the most self-absorbed anything I have ever seen. From all of the dumb quizzes, to "50 things about me..." to people posting every little thing their child does or that they do, a.e...."Tonight I made enchiladas for dinner and my kids at all of it!". I used to be an avid FB user for a month or two - thought it was fun to connect with old friends, but the more I used it the more it made me realize what was truly important in my life, and who was important, and the stuff people post ends up irritating me. I have found it to be one big bragging site...from hubby's friends posting about "I just landed in London - cool airport" to "Our swim team is undefeated for the 7th year in a row." I tend to be a more introverted person but I've had friends say "You never post on FB" and I say, "Who cares...I am busy doing stuff, being with family, and hanging out with friends."

Does anyone else feel this way? I've actually thought of removing myself completely....so I don't feel guilt not posting....it just seems weird to me that some posters put out their entire personal lives, medical issues and trials and tribulations on FB....and even weirder to me are the multiple posts per day, a.e. "My kid just came downstairs with his shirt on backwards....he's gifted and I worry about him." ??? Do your 177 "friends" really need to know that?

Sorry....just a bit crabby with no food before my doc appt, LOL....but please, there must be other people who feel this way!

[mommytoEli]

i can't even figure it out. i've tried. i gave up. lol. i think i'm too old to be hip to the new networking scene. lol.

[dac_cincy]

I don't know that I think that- but I jut hid a person who all she does is complain about everything and everyone she sees. I just could nto stand it. I have gotten to the point that I don't like the quizzes. But most of my friends actually post what they are doing in terms of how the day is going- not so much bragging about kids or exactly what they are doing at that moment.

I still like blogs better.

Love to you

[annaguat]

I understand where you are coming from. I have not had this issue, atleast that I am aware off. I hav4e however had people ask me if they could post my children's pictures and in what context. Like for the Hula dance class there are pictures on a member only website and there is no identifying information. Still I am always being asked for permission to use the pictures. I would just talk to the parent and ask if they could just simply delete pictures of your child. They did not have permission in the first place to post them. Anna

[beverlyanderic]

why are you not comfortable with having your child's pic on facebook?

[amyfk]

Hi

Thank you all for all of your help. I appreciate it. Later in the day I will ask the mom nicely to take my child's photo down. And while I like some parts of Facebook, I reconnected with a few folks, on the other hand I do think that some of it is a bunch of junk. I am sick of the folks bragging about their vacations and stuff when other folks cannot land a job, etc etc. To Beverlyanderic, the reason why I want my daughter's photo down is a bit personal but it's a valid one.
Thanks all,
Amy K, NJ

[shelbydog]

AmyK, that's what I mean about FB....I find it to be so incredibly self-absorbed MOST of the time. Not all...but come on - why would one feel the need to post what they are doing throughout the day? Really? I don't get it. You are so right about people losing their jobs, struggling.....if only that time was used better, or to help. Not that one cannot have some fun, but if I want to connect, I email or phone someone. If I want to share pics of my family or pets, I put them in email or send a link to my private shutterfly account.

Forget Twitter and Linked In. I've gotten invites and I now ignore them. There's something odd about checking into your computer several times a day to post all about YOU, KWIM? The really weird stuff I think is when people post while on the road, or on vacation....."Just got back from the beach"...."Just ran a triathlon..."...."I am lion hear me roar" LOL! And some weird stuff like "Off to snuggle with hubby"...I mean??!!!

Okay.....said my peace - getting off the computer now

[JustBarbara]

Oh gosh and here I was thinking I am the only one asking themselves - why on earth did I sign up for facebook? At first it seemed harmless but then people send you hugs, birthday requests, quizzes etc. and if you click okay then all your information becomes available to them.(and their friends, and their friends) I was shocked to check out photos my younger sister put up and she has many pictures (with full names) of my DS and my neice and nephew. Heck, I don't post pictures of DS on FB. And really, I'm not that interesting that all my 'friends' need to know it is still raining ... or I am ready for a vacation ... or I had a great bday ... or I am so hungry. Really, enough already. But then I am somewhat of a private person and more of an observer than a 'hey, look it's me' kind of person. And yes, the majority of people are somewhere in the middle. Okay, now I must get off my soap box.

[michelemk]

I just had to chime in here...I actually like FB a lot and might just be one of those "self-absorbed" people who post silly stuff in my status updates! I have over 300 FB friends and also get annoyed with the dumb quizzes, but just click on them to ignore them. There are probably only about 75 people (family and friends) on FB who I really want to check on and see what they are up to and I enjoy getting posts about their vacations or what is going on in their life---even if it is mundane daily life stuff about their kids or whatever. This helps me to keep up with them and gives me a chance to post back comments to them.

Michele
(status update: Michele is posting on the guatadopt message board when she should be working!!)

[momraine]

I do facebook because I have teens. It's amazing what they tell each other and me on there. I have my kids, but also thier friends. What's funny is when I post it on there, the kids actually listen to my advice, that they would never listen to if I gave it to them in person. Yeah, I keep in contact with friends and stuff, but mostly for me it's a tool to keep in touch with my kids and thier friends. (also since I was a youth director for years, I keep in touch with my former youth who are all so grown up now, I feel old!)

[baby_abroad]

I think a couple of the previous posters brought up a key point. Introverts may be less likely to post and/or enjoy status updates. I'm very extroverted, and I love interacting via FB. I also enjoy hearing from people that I haven't seen for years. One poster said that if they want to connect with someone, they email or call. That's great if you have their phone number or email address. But, in my case I didn't have any information on a lot of my FB friends, and FB was the catalyst to finding them!

I have a Blackberry, so most of my FB posts are away from my computer.

As an aside, I personally can't understand people hanging out on web forums all day. ;-) (This is actually the first time in MONTHS, that I logged on to this forum.) I wouldn't say my FB interactions are selfish and I certainly don't "brag" about my family. Further, when people say great things their children are doing or nice things that are happening to them, I am sincerely happy for them. In my experience, having a bad attitude about people's happy experiences and good fortunes usually means I'm being a little jealous.

We all have our likes/dislikes, and to each his own.