[cantwait2bmommy]

I have been very blessed to find lots of old friends (and many new!) on Facebook. There is a person that ran in my circle in high school but I wasn't really friends with that after high school I got close to for a while. We don't have much in common and when we were friends she said things that hurt me pretty regularly (mostly little things, but some big) until I finally decided the relationship wasn't healthy and I stopped communicating with her.

Since I stopped she has been harassing me (and my brother) on FB telling me to write her back, add her as a friend, blah, blah, blah. I have taken the high road and ignored everything (even a very hypocritical, mean public thing she said about someone else we knew) but she just won't stop. The latest came today when she sent me a FB message saying "I am going to start vicious rumors about you on FB if you don't accept me as a friend... " Smiley face and all. Gotta love it.

So here is my question, WWYD? Be honest!

1. Ignore her again
2. Report the post
3. Send her a message telling her I am sorry she is hurt, I am hurt too, we are never going to be friends, leave me alone
4. Accept her as a friend but continue to ignore her
5. Get ugly back

I am so torn here. I just want to meet nice people and have fun on FB. I don't want to hurt anyone but I don't feel like playing her game. Thanks for your input.
Chris

[adoptnky]

My gut feeling is to do #1 and #2. I don't know what Facebook's policies are on harrassment - but it sure feels like that to me.

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this.

Kim

[cmfayz]

Ignore her. Eventually she'll get bored and go away.

[TheFoxx]

Obviously ignoring her isn't working. I'd be honest with her. Tell her that she has said mean things to you in the past, she continues to say mean things about people based on her post on "x" person and you really don't have the time or energy to devote to a toxic relationship.

[cbmstephanie]

I would be honest with her. Tell her why you don't want to add her as a friend. Maybe she will surprise you and offer up an explanation that you can accept and your friendship may resume or not...and if she continues to force the issue report her.

[afl]

Wow Chris.... Sorry you're dealing with something like this.

The way I see it, there's no future in this friendship obviously since she is being downright mean and harrassing. So, I'd send her a message that you don't appreciate her behaving this way and that you wouldn't want to befriend someone that treats you this way.

Then, I would ignore any future messages and yep, report to FB.

[Wonk]

I would ask - "Why would you want to be friends with someone you would also spread viscious rumors about?"

I would also remember that reputations are very important and hers probably preceeds her with all the people you would care about. Or to put it in four year old terms, "I'm rubber and you're glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you." I wouldn't worry about it.

[Guatemom]

#3.....BE HONEST. If not, you are just as much at fault for feeding into her 'friendship' delusion, imo.

[LRA]

Chris,

Sorry you are having to deal with such high school behavior. Guess she just can't grow up huh? I would just tell her, "look this is exactly why I have been ignoring you and if you continue to harrass me, I will report you. After that I will be taking legal action. You know slander is against the law" I have just started learning facebook and it is such a fun/great thing...if you are into that, I know it is not for everyone. But my point was it is a shame just like everything else, there is always one person who will ruin it for everyone. I do have to admit I would be curious as to why she wants to be friends so badly...so the evil side of me would probably accept her as a friend just to see what she is up to

Hugs to you and your beautiful family.

[plum93]

There is also a feature that allows you to block people so that they cannot even see that you have a facebook account and cannot communicate with you. It is in privacy settings.

[asauer]

First, make your page private (if it isn't already)- she can't post if you don't accept her as a friend. Then, report her posts to facebook- this is exactly the kind of thing that drove down the quality of MySpace. Finally, set your e-mail filter to automatically put her requests in the trash. Case closed. In my opinion, interacting with her to say anything will just encourage her behavior.

[GCS]

Block her. If she is in contact with other people you network with then tell her you are blocking her because ignoring her just doesn't seem to work.

Good luck!

[jeck]

Originally Posted by asauer

First, make your page private (if it isn't already)- she can't post if you don't accept her as a friend. Then, report her posts to facebook- this is exactly the kind of thing that drove down the quality of MySpace. Finally, set your e-mail filter to automatically put her requests in the trash. Case closed. In my opinion, interacting with her to say anything will just encourage her behavior.

I just sent you message thru FB but I agree with the above and would block her in the settings section!!!

[nannyisme2004]

Ignore and report.

[Tamiswaiting]

Block her. She sounds like a psycho.