[lmvsmom]

Just curious if anyone else has had a disappointing/weird experience making a connection through the Guatemala Adopt Sibling Registry?
A few years ago, I made a contact with someone on the registry who turned out to have adopted DS's cousin. Through my agency, I was able to connect this person and another family who had adopted the other child's sibling. What I mean is, I found two first cousins of DS. I had a few email interactions and exchanged pics of the children but then one day I just never heard another word from either of them. I read back through my emails and really cannot see where I made any offensive comments or upset anyone. I guess it just seems like these two families found each other and forget about my DS who is just a first cousin to them. This has bothered me ever since it happened. I'm curious if anyone else had an odd experience?

[annaguat]

Not off the registery but we lost our Pacific Islander children's first cousins as did the bio family. Where are Miniko (now Christianne) and little Albert(now Steven)? The children's bio sister asked me this last November again if I knew where her now 19 yr or so bio sister is and her little brother now almost 11 yrs. I have a last name of the family that adopted them and think they now live on the East coast, previously Arizona. If you have any understanding of island culture you know that the children were as siblings as they all lived in the same one bedroom house with the grand parents. Anna

[NJRach]

I had a very weird experience. Our first adoption, of two sisters who were 1 and 3, fell through. It dragged on for a few months, we were given excuses and then one day we were told that the girls' grandmother wanted custody. So we put that behind us and adopted Manny.

A few months ago I came across the girls photos and birth certificates, and thought of the sibling registry. If anyone had one of their siblings, I thought I'd forward the photos and dates of birth, as it would be great for a sibling to have.

Sure enough, I found the birth mothers name and emailed the person. They didn't answer for a while, so I said all I wanted was to know if they'd like the info I had. I received a vague, short email saying they'd like the photos. I forwarded them and never heard another word.

I always wonder if they had adopted the girls. NOT that I have issues with that - Manny is more than enough for us. But I think they probably adopted them and were wary of me. It was a weird ending of a weird chapter in our lives.

Rachael

[dspakowsky]

We haven't experienced anything like that with our children (yet), but we have in our family. My oldest sister was adopted out as a newborn... then 20 years later we all united. That was 17 years ago, and during that time there's been many disappoinements, misunderstandings, etc. Simply put, it's complicated. Looking back, maybe some family members wished we never all came together (I don't feel that way).

All this just to say there's mixed feelings when dealing with adoption, and "blood" ties, etc. People get nervois, get concered their "role" might be filled by someone else (brother, cousin, mother, etc.) of they reach out to bio family members.