[GuatMommy2Be]

I know I can't possibly be the only with a moron for an uncle So c'mon share the idiotic comments.....

My uncle asked "Does she speak english yet?" and I said "Uh yeah" and he says "Well it's in her blood" Really, I'm not sure that's where language comes from, but if you say so....

Then proceeded to ask why I would buy her shoes that squeak when she walks.... and doesn't it get annoying?

[mommytoEli]

uncle says: we want to have the first grandchildren in this family.

dh says: we already beat you to that.....5 times.

uncle says: oh...i mean we are going to have the BLOOD grandchildren.



needless to say...we don't spend much time with him anymore.

[MamaS]

Showing a relative pictures of my two "most-beautiful-in-the-world grandchildren" and he said:
It's such a shame you never had your own children -- but at least you have grandchildren! (Yeah, their mothers are the children that weren't mine, so how...? Never mind.)

[JillnChris]

Hmmm....I'm sure I have a few of these.
My favorite is when my sister kept on refering to Eva as Mexican and I once again corrected her saying that she is Guatemalan and my sisters response was, "Well it's the same thing they're both in Spain."
Ummmm ya. She's blond. The really bad thing is her husband is Mexican which makes her two children half Mexican.

[abensonslaton]

Well for me it is a little different. One of the realtives goes about my oldest who do you think he looks like. Minds you my world is a little different I am half hispanic and my husband looks italian and our oldest is white and I mean white in comparsion to us. I teased and said I was trying to adopt a girl from Guatamala and somehow got a white boy from Oregon. That was so true we couldn't adopt from Guatamala at the time because they had closed and the agency somehow knew we were right for these "special" birthmom and birthdad. Then I had two surprise back to back pregnancies and my middle son is exact duplicate of my dad. youngest is my mini me. Anyhow just told the realtive yeah he is adopted but it is hard to tell because he has the same exact nose as me and my kids and I'm super lucky and all my kids have dimples (this is so true) Reminder God always has better plans than I do.
Angela
G open domestic adoption 2003
G DS 2005
G DD 2006

I'm Thankful every day for my family!

[amylynn3]

My mom, bless her heart, made a very "silly" comment. I was talking to her about my sons somewhat picky eating habits and different ways to prepare food to encourage him to eat more variety. Anyway, my mom looks at me and totally seriously says "what if you wrap his food in a tortilla? won't he eat it then?"...I was speechless and didn't even respond.

[cjrogers]

lol. What a timely thread. Inlaws here right now..... my MIL just said everytime she goes to her airport in Miami she comes out smelling like a "bean" from all the mexicans.

Nice. Nothing specific to my son ... YET.

[JoshGuat]

Yesterday at Thanksgiving. My brother in laws mother said "Why didn't you adopt your own kind?" I said because he would have probably died if I didn't. They are so poor in Guatemala and barely have enough food to eat" All of a sudden she sai ahhh my that is so sad. Yeah. She looked so sad after I said that. (Don't mess with this momma and her cub! )

[kiplingmom]

Originally Posted by JoshGuat

Yesterday at Thanksgiving. My brother in laws mother said "Why didn't you adopt your own kind?" I said because he would have probably died if I didn't. They are so poor in Guatemala and barely have enough food to eat" All of a sudden she sai ahhh my that is so sad. Yeah. She looked so sad after I said that. (Don't mess with this momma and her cub! )

Ugh! This one really got me! I think I would have had to say, "My own kind? I did! The HUMAN KIND!"

[Ladyofmoonlight]

Okay, non-Guat AP here but since this thread exists and I do have a nice little rant...

Yesterday my aunt (uncle's wife), who's trying to adopt her sister's two children as the state took them away, hosted Thanksgiving. We were a little wary to go over anyway since her family holds some horribly biggotted views and they have no issue with letting their teen children make jokes about Mexicans, homosexuals, incest, etc (and even joining in). Most of the awful talk comes after dinner when everyone is congregating so we had a plan to escape as soon as it was done.

As we were getting ready to leave though I was gazing at the little baby my aunt is trying to adopt and said "oh, you don't have to make me anymore baby crazy than I already am!"

My aunt asked when she should expect our new addition, and I told them we're HS ready but need our townhouse to sell before we could afford it.

Then she said, with this little baby in her arms and my son within earshot, "Or, you could just have your OWN child!"

I was kind of befuddled and a bit surprised and honestly I didn't handle it that well. I just quickly said something about how that would cost money too as DH is infertile.

Then she said "Oh, well I was told I could never have children either but we still tried and now I have three!" Again, with her potential 5th child in arms and her potential 4th in the other room.

I really should've been more defensive and angry and, well, told her off. Instead I quickly explained that we wanted Paxton to have a sibling that's racially similar before thinking about biological children. At least her oldest daughter agreed with me that this was a good idea.

When we were in the car a minute later I practically broke down. If my son was just a little older he would've understood what she was saying, about me not yet having my own children. I'm sorry but I have my own child. At least Paxton was a doll about it and once we got to DH's family's house he gave me kisses on my chest to make mommy's heart feel better (I told him when people are sad their heart hurts) and lots of big, tight hugs.

DH's family does do the language thing, like "well maybe he doesn't like the movie because it's in English and he doesn't understand that yet" and "does he call you mommy yet or something in, uh... Ethiopian?" Silly things that don't bother me nearly as much, especially since they're always just trying to be understanding and sympathetic towards him, and they always are willing to let us correct them.

[merkley3]

I haven't had too many racial slurs... but my most hated, I mean I loath this question ...

Are they sisters?

That question bothers me sooooo much. Of course they are sisters, they are both my daughters. And that is usually how I respond.

[Momonthefarm]

I agree the "are they sisters ?" question is one we get a lot since we are adopting two at the same time. The other one we get is "what happened to their real mom?" to which I smile brightly and say "Oh, you mean their birth mom?" That usually shuts them right up! I know they don't mean to be rude and I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and am hoping that over time people will become more aware of the comments they make. I could be dreaming however! Renee

[Disneycrazed]

When talking about all the paperwork that was involved in adopting, my cousin's husband said... "must have felt like you were buying a car"
I was in shock and very hurt and his mother in law must have seen this since she stepped right in and made it very clear how inappropriate that statement was.

[gwenrenee007]

My sis' MIL says, "is she still cross eyed? You should really get that fixed." We said, "yes, a little, but it's a lot better and the doctor said not to worry and we would see what it was like at 3 yrs and go from there." She then went on to tell us how we need to get something done now. Then a little while later she said, "is she pigeon toed?" I was so flabbergasted! I wanted to say something mean back like isn't your grandson 8, but talks like a 4 yr old, but I didn't. We were talking later and I was wondering if she felt like she could say this because dd isn't biologically related to us sort of like, she is imperfect, but since she wasn't created by you I can say this. I don't know it was really annoying!

Then of course NO ONE being the least bit interested in our next adoption. If I brought it up they just listened for a second then change the subject. Gotta love family!

[laylasmom]

We went out to eat with my family (who are actually really wonderful) and my sister said "you know Carlos and Sofi could actually get married when they are older". I said "What?? They are brother and sister". We actually went back and forth several times before I got my point across. I asked my sister if she ever had dreams of marrying our brother.
My husband's nephew (age 19) said of Carlos when we first brought him home "he's not my cousin, he's just some kid who came over the border." HE'S still a jerk!

Janie