[mamaskoby]

I know there are lots of Jewish folks here. I have a question for you all about the Bris. We were told it would cost us $3000 to go in front of the people in charge in Los Angeles and ask for our adoptive son to be given a bris. Not even the actual procedure because he needs to have it done in a hospital because of his age. So what am I paying for???
Just because he is adopted?? I want to go elsewhere to do it but my dh says they will know because we are so involved with them and if they don't do the ceromony it would be obvious someone else did. Help! Its alot of money and I feel they are raking us just because he is adopted.

[guatparents2be]

Any rabbi can do a bris ceremony or naming ceremony. Any reason you are going this route?

We decided against circ in the end but we found a local doc that does the religious part IN the operating room then we would come home and have a celebration at our home with the rabbi.

There were not fees involved in any of it except the medical fees for the circ. We would just make a donation to the rabbi and our synagogue.

Am I missing something? I'm not the most educated on these things...

ETA: there is a jewish guate adoption group on yahoo, you may want to x post. Or also you could call Jewish family services...

[Devora]

My rabbi said he would come to the hospital and say the blessings there. No "fee" was involved. It's not like paying a mohel to do the actual circumcision. (And I've never heard of a mohel charging that kind of fee!!) Could there have been a miscommunication?

[jeannecr]

If you aren't a member of the congregation, I could imagine charging a small fee to come to the hospital to say the blessings--something like $300 instead of $3000. They aren't doing a bris, so they shouldn't charge for one.

[mamaskoby]

With my first son we did not belong to a shul so we hired a mohel to come to our house and do the bris. (bio son) ...Now with our new son we have belonged to the local CHabad for a few years now, and our Chabad Rabbi told us we would have to go in front of the judicial council in Los Angeles and get a certificate to say our new son is Jewish and that is what the 3000 is for, and if we do it this way no one will ever be able to question our son being Jewish......
But this still seems like alot of money to me, I know its the orthodox most conservative way to do this so I just want to make sure this is "kosher" (no pun intended, lol!))
Thanks

[angel_bayou]

Sorry no advice but I wanted to wish you the utmost luck on this!! Everything is all about the money these days!!
I'm not jewish so please pardon me if I sound silly but why would you can do go to a judge to declare this? What would the $3,000 cover and can you someone how file this yourself in the court saving some dough?