[foxey13]

Hang in there Lou, you will get through this. To pass on the advice that all my friends are giving us, make sure you are taking time for you every day, away from the kids. Even if it's to take a bath or shower and dry your hair.

We are looking at a similar situation once Skye gets home, he and our almost newborn are 16 months apart. We have many many friends and family in our community who are all on board to help us out, and then tell us this each time they see us b/c they are worried I am going to try and be super mom. I am super, and I will be a mom, but have no intention of trying to be a supermom.

Hang in there, it will get better.

shannon

[joyloo]

((( Lou )))

I'm so sorry you and Essie are going through a rough time. I'm glad that you are able to voice how you are feeling here. Hopefully you are able to get some advice, support and encouragement here to help you through the coming months. Just keep repeating to yourself that it WILL get easier in time.

Joy

[Angel99]

Lou,
Please do not despair! You are a wonderful mom to a big family, especially two girls that are so close in age! Goodness, I'm overwhelmed with just Jess. I think you are an amazing woman to mother these two blessings!
I wish I could say something else to relieve your stress right now- all I can do is send some hugs your way- Remember you are one person- don't expect so much of yourself. I admire your ability to "say it how it is" about motherhood! For all the joy it brings there are those moments of "Good Lord, how can I do this?!?!?!" Little Essie will just need some time to adjust, as will every one in your family. You know on this forum you have support and your own cheering section!!! Keep your chin up- and vent all you need to!!!That's what we're here for!

[LadyTink]

Lou, I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!!

[Travelkid]

Sending many ...

Coming from someone who gets overwhelmed with one, I don't know how you do it. To echo many others, be kind to yourself as you go through this "season" and know that it will pass.

[pvanabel]

Lou - your post brought tears to my eyes. Your heart is big and your faith is strong..you will all get thru this, Essie too. She has to learn trust and security, that may take her a long time. AP and her will have moments for many years. I see with Emery and Vivian that they both need/want me at the same time - they are only babies and push to get to me - I try to remain patient and loving, but at times have to let them cry with just rubbing their backs and talking to them, all while staying close and not always picking them up. My house is a mess and I don't get to shower often, but I know I need to give this time to both of them and our 2 older ones too -do what you can and when you can. Just console and love all your kids as best you can. This too will pass and Essie will be okay. Hang in there and keep venting when you need to.
Kristie

[guatemama94]

Hi Lou!

Thought I'd chime in! I had two girls come home within 3 weeks of one another. It has been challenging, but mostly with the DD from Guatemala rather than FD. They are 6 and 2 respectively. Things will get better with time. Your post made me reflect a bit on where we were back in Dec., Jan. and Feb. and we've come a long way.

I know your heart is in the right place and you're doing exactly what you're supposed to. Just keep praying for strength, patience and wisdom. The girls are reacting very normally. My best advice is give yourself a break from it all whenever you can. If you have family that can step in for you for even a couple of hours---take advantage of it.