[gwenrenee007]

Ok, please tell me that I am NOT the crazy one here! Our neighbor who just turned 16 in April is getting married to her boyfriend who also lives in the house and has for almost a year. Her sister who is 18 (got married at 17) is already married has one son and is pregnant with another. The parents allow the girls and their boyfriends/husbands to live there. They don't do it because of any religious beliefs and I have no idea what they are thinking. They seem "normal" except this - no drinking, partying, drugs, or anything like that. They have to sign for her to get married so the parents do have a say and I bet they will be paying for the wedding too. What do you guys think. Would you let your 16 yr old get married?

Edited to add: I know it's none of my business

[lcikra00]

Absolutely not. That's it, absolutely not.

[ana-mom]

My niece turns 16 in January and I don't think she is anywhere near ready to be married - she would probably laugh if I asked her about it. She is still having fun hanging with her friends and is very active in school sports.

I do believe that people have different expectations for their lives. I had friends in high school that were engaged but there was no way I was even thinking of that kind of thing then.

[SKL]

I would say it depends on the individual. My mom got married at 17 and she & my dad are getting ready to celebrate their 47th wedding anniversary. They have 6 kids but it wasn't a "shotgun wedding." They went through plenty of ups and downs, but getting married at 17 was not a mistake in their case. I know various women who got married between agest 15 and 17 and sometimes it worked out and sometimes it didn't. I would not make a blanket statement one way or the other.

[giovanni7460]

I remember the guy I dated at 16. At 48 he looks a lot different in my eyes then he did back then. It takes a special man and women to make it work from a teenager to old age together. I would love to see it happen but the reality is that it does not in most cases.
Patty

[Dawnb93]

My mother got married when she was 16 and they are still married 48 years later. She didn't have her first child until 3 years later, so it wasn't that. HOWEVER, my mom will be the first one to tell you to wait. My response to my DD if she were to come to me with this (14 years from now), "h to the e to the double ell NO! If he loves you, he'll wait two years for you to turn 18." Period. I was 34 when I got married, btw.

Dawn

[karen nickols]

my daughter started seeing the guy she married when seh was 15. At 16 she told me they we engaged and and 18 got marrried. I was heart broke but they have been married 7 years and seem to have a very good and respectable relationship. It is not the way I wanted her to do things but I dont get the living the the same house thing.

[connorsmommy1999]

oh my gawd!! NO WAY.

My DS is turning 17 in a few weeks and I still have to tell him to pick up his dirty boxers from the bathroom floor - among other things. Heck, it hasnt been very long since he started showering without me nagging him!!!! I cant even IMAGINE him married!
ewww, gross. just gross.

[guatparents2be]

if it were my daughter i wouldn't allow her to get married.

but i would, if she made the decision to keep her child, and her boyfriend was on board and involved, probably allow them to live in my house and raise their child, (especially if it allowed them to finish school.) if they could make the relationship work, then they would have my support to get married when they turned 18.

i get making an adult decision to have a child requires being an adult but it seems like an awful lot to stack against 2 kids who already have a lot stacked against them.

i'm not one though that thinks that parents need to be married to be committed to each other and their family.

[guatparents2be]

Originally Posted by connorsmommy1999

oh my gawd!! NO WAY.

My DS is turning 17 in a few weeks and I still have to tell him to pick up his dirty boxers from the bathroom floor - among other things. Heck, it hasnt been very long since he started showering without me nagging him!!!! I cant even IMAGINE him married!
ewww, gross. just gross.

ROFL!!!!!!

[Wonk]

I think that kids are not legally adults until 18 years old. Before that they can't legally enter into a contract and marriage is a contract. So I don't believe in this.

[Tammy2005]

Originally Posted by connorsmommy1999

oh my gawd!! NO WAY.

My DS is turning 17 in a few weeks and I still have to tell him to pick up his dirty boxers from the bathroom floor - among other things. Heck, it hasnt been very long since he started showering without me nagging him!!!! I cant even IMAGINE him married!
ewww, gross. just gross.

LOL so cute, shoot I still have to tell my hubby to pick his up, guess this is something they don`t out grow after they get married. Tammy

[BrandyHagz]

Before that they can't legally enter into a contract and marriage is a contract.

No comment on the marriage thing...I try not to comment on others parenting - that invites them to comment on mine

But - the above quote isn't totally true...in some instances, pregnant 'girls' do not need their parents consent to marry. In every instance, a girl (under 18) is allowed to enter into a contract with adoption agencies...and can make legal decisions such as placing their child for adoption, without being an adult or even having the counsel of an attorney to represent their rights.

Its just one more of those things where the whole concept of being an adult is subjective

[angel_bayou]

I too have family (an aunt) who married young, infact she was 13 and they have been married for over 35 years now!! Happy and no seperations ever!!
Society is what changes the way we see things. Seriously and I don't want to start a debate but I know back in the day it was totally accepted and NOT frowned upon, but today it is!!! I did have a child at 17 and choose not to marry right away, but we're now married almost ten years later!! I was a mature mother due to the childhood I lead and loss I suffered. I know many teens cannot handle marriage and children but I don't think it's fair to label all of them!
Any way that's my soap box speech for the day Oh and personally I would rather my daughter wait as I did pregnant or not and they would not be living together in my home either. Each parent and family is different and has A LOT to do with their own upbrining!

[AngelQT]

Uh.....

All I am going to say is...

I think I will Lock Angelena in her room when she starts thinking about Boys... I know how I was at that age, and I am SOOOOOOOOOO Ready at that front door, and bedroom window!

Just Kidding...

It really depends on the person... But, in my eyes, if the parents are willing to support them and stand by them... It is up to them... One would think it could be a competition thing between sisters too... Just a thought~!